Should I make him responsible for contraception?
Abit of back story...
I have 2 kids and have had 5 miscarriages. I was using implanon before my first but got that out coz I was bleeding like crazy. After my first I used depo but that made me hormonally crazy so stopped using that after 2yrs. It took another 2.5yrs to conceive which I miscarried. Went on the pill and conceived twins that I miscarried 2wks apart. I then conceived my son. I fell pregnant again when he was 10wks and miscarried. Afew months later I went on the pill and fell pregnant but was advised to terminate by my doc. I had a mirena put in at the time of the termination. 4 months later I yet again fell pregnant and miscarried very early on. I now have an appt to get the mirena out because it obviously doesn't work for me and I've had more emotional side effects than when using depo. I've run out of options for birth control besides getting my tubes tied which I won't do. My partner has always thought it was my responsibility to be the one to prevent pregnancy so won't use condoms.
I want another baby. He doesn't but I cannot use hormonal birth control. I also can't use the copper IUD due to an allergy.
Do you think it's wrong to tell him if he doesn't want another baby then it's now his job to prevent it? I've suffered enough from child birth, miscarriages and birth control side effects so I think it's his turn now and if he won't do anything to prevent pregnancy he can't be upset if I do fall pregnant.
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