My sister who was two weeks behind me is still pregnant and going strong. Today I asked her about her doula. She told me that her doula said that babies only decide to accept their mother at 16 weeks. I felt really hurt considering that I miscarried at 10 weeks. And so I asked what happened in my case and of course my sister (and my mother got) defensive. 

I thought my husband would understand, but it turns out I was wrong. When I told my husband about the incident he ended up getting mad at me saying that I need to accept that our baby is gone. I am so hurt because I thought that out of everyone he would understand, but now I understand that he didn't really feel that our miscarriage was really a baby. He doesn't feel the sense of loss that I feel and I actually feel he resents that I still feel sad that we lost the baby. 

I am so hurt I don't know what to do or think. Do anyone have any encouraging thoughts or words?