Signs of a abusive bf?

What are the beginning signs of a abusive relationship? I've been seeing this guy for a month and he's starting to get controlling like one time I hesitated on a question and his response was "why are you hesitating are you thinking of a lie? Don't hesitate next time I ask you something so let's try again" then he asked me the question again and it was a dumb question like how long have you been single or something and every now and then he'll do something along those lines. He's also VERY controlling during sex and wants me to take orders from him which we have a Dom and submissive sex life. Every now and then he'll give me "orders" outside the bedroom he'll say "ok these are your orders you'll meet me here at this time park in this spot bla bla bla". He also mentions how he wants a sweet girl like a real sweet hearted woman but it kinda made me think he wanted someone really sweet to control. Idk these are definitely signs of a controlling man but is it leading up to a physical abusive man?