Do you agree that I got hurt for no reason?

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So this happened a while ago with my ex, but I saw a post that made me think of it and I would love your guys opinions. My last ex was the first guy I ever had sex with. He had mentioned previously that he never was too interested in sex(as he was with other things)so he put no pressure on me which was nice. And when it finally happened naturally, he was having a bit of trouble finishing. Which at first I didn't know, I just thought that that's how it works or maybe it was something I was doing wrong. So I offered to finish him, he said yes and that was the end of it. I didn't think it was a big deal. But then he apparently went to his girl best friend(whom I've never met) and told her all about it because he was apparently upset with the situation. To make matters worse, when he told this girl, I didn't know, all(and I mean all) the details about my first time, she told all of her roommates.
When he told me I was really hurt for multiple reasons 1)I don't know this woman and now she knows all about my first time 2)that he was my first which supposedly meant a lot to him, yet he was not comfy enough to discuss his concerns of OUR sexual experience with me. 3) he said nothing &whist watched as she told all her friends. 
He argued that he didn't think it was a big deal bc she's more experienced so he always goes to her for advice. And there was no point in getting mad at her for telling bc he didn't want to start an argument. He basically then told me I was hurt for no reason and he did nothing wrong. I'm still annoyed by it even though it's been months but common I'm sure  I'm not the only one who would have got annoyed:/

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That guy sounds like he has no balls tbh also if that hoe is gossiping to other girls about your guys sex, then it's most likely he's the one who's looking bad bc he's going around asking for advice?

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I would have gotten just as annoyed, I think he knows he did wrong and doesn't want to say anything. You need to talk about it properly and not argue x

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I was really pissed off when my partner seeker advise from some other female. The same female tried breaking us up way back or shall I say preventing us from getting back together when we had a tough time we was younger then so we are all over thay now but regardless  when I found out he had spoken to her about our sex life 4 years in I was pissed off. 2. Because I didn't know this girl 2. Because of the history 3. Because I havnt even seen this girl personally and 4 years in our sex life should be that personal he's never spoke to her about our sex life again but regardless it still pissed me off that another female could comment on it on how to make it better when it should be a case of us discussing it and experimenting what WE like not do what someone else has told us. She sleeps around ALOT as well so the stuff she told him isn't for the connection  side of things it's a fuck and leave experience. So obviously getting advise from someone who has never been in this position pissed me off more. Never apologise for the way something makes you feel

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Being annoyed totally makes sense. If he always goes to her for advice because she's more experienced, it would be fine if he just casually asked a vague question or whatever. But she doesn't need to know details. My bf's ex - who was his first sexual partner - told one of her friends ALL the details after they had sex, and he was (and still is, a year and a half later) super upset about it. It's even worse since you've never met this girl and she told other people... @_@ Like, when I tell my best friend stuff I expect her to keep her lips sealed. He should at least be annoyed that she told other people... Sure, there's nothing wrong with wanting info/help from her if they're close and she's experienced with these things, but he should have ran that by you first. And then he should have been sympathetic w/ your upset-ness at her telling her roommates, and even told her something like "wtf that's private stuff, I trusted you to keep that between us"

Do you agree that I got hurt for no reason?

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