What am I doing wrong ?!

So the guy that took my virginity we've been dealing with each other for about 4 years now. So almost 2 years ago he had a child. We weren't dealing with each other at the time so I couldn't really be upset. But I did distance myself more. Yesterday I questioned him about if he had another child on the way. He said yes. Then told me who it was .. The girl I fought. I feel that some of us females the ones that feel that making their sex partner wear a condom aren't "good enough". If anything we should be respected more for wanting to practice safe sex.