Would you say something? Long post

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So my friend has had an extremely difficult baby from the get go. She did attachment parenting and as a result, he literally can't be off of her at any time. Literally. That's not the issue here but what I'm concerned about is, she's front facing her 7 month old baby because if she doesn't, the baby will literally scream at the top of his lungs. Literally. We went one exit up to Olive Garden the other day and by the time we got there, he was so worked up, he was throwing up. He instantly stopped and was relieved when we stopped and she got him out. When she has to go places by herself, it's the same situation and she can't drive unless he is front facing. The problem is, he's not even buckled in properly. The clip is never even with his armpits and the straps are always really loose. This isn't even her first baby either.  So she should know better...I feel like if I say somethings she might get all offended. I'm a first time mom and she's a second. I feel like he's not safe at all in the car. I say the baby should just have to CIO in the car when she a sugar to go places, it's safe then him snapping his neck if hey got into it. So should I say something?

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Yes. It's illegal.

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❤️ • Mar 11, 2016
I was thinking maybe one day I could plan to go down to the fire station together, that way I'm not necessarily picking on her. It can be a group thing for all of us to learn.

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❤️ • Mar 11, 2016
Ok thanks Kelly! He definitely isn't meeting those circumstances, so I'll just have to say something.

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Sarah • Mar 11, 2016
It used to be a baby had to be 40 lbs to face forward but I think they now say 40 lbs or at least 2 years. So yes, you should say something. When you go to talk to her you could try before hand looking up some links to share with her on the dangers of improper car seat use and maybe (if you have the financial means) offer to get the kid a little toy to keep them occupied in the car.

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Sorry for the typos at the end. I meant crying it out is safer for him in car than snapping his neck in an accident. 

Ca

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I didn't read through all the comments so someone might have already said this but you should definitely say something. What if there were an accident and the baby were injured or killed? You sure would have wished you said something! Better safe than sorry. I know they have mirrors you can attach to the headrest, maybe she could rig it up so he can see her while rear facing. Good luck🍀

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❤️ • Mar 11, 2016
Exactly!! Thank you!

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As another commenter said I'd go to the fire station or hospital or police station together that way it's those professionals telling her and not job so she doesn't get defensive. We wouldn't have been allowed to leave the hospital when my daughter was born if her car seat was installed incorrectly or facing the wrong way so she should understand its in her child's best interest. 

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❤️ • Mar 11, 2016
Yes! That's another great point. I'm definitely going to do this. Thanks for the advice!

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WT • Mar 11, 2016
And not you so she doesn't get defensive ***

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Maybe you could suggest that you guys attend a carseat safety course with highway patrol.

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WT • Mar 11, 2016
Great idea! That way a fireman could be the one to tell her the hard facts and safety issues

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❤️ • Mar 11, 2016
That's a great idea. I'm thinking of both of us going to the fire station to learn about car seat safety.

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She needs to turn him back around & get one of the mirrors so he can see her. There are ways to soothe him whilst still being safe. Babies that young should never be front-facing, their vertebrae are not fused together yet to protect their spinal cord & it would be so easy for his neck to snap and kill him in an accident. I would rather let my baby scream than risk their life. 

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Yes. Say something. It's incredibly dangerous to have a baby that young facing forward and not buckled properly. It is also, as someone has mentioned, illegal.

Ma

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So you are agreeing this is a difficult baby and she is already stressed, why don't you correct her parenting and make the situation better? I'm sure that won't add fuel to the fire. 🙄

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The baby will eventually adjust, she just needs to deal with the crying for a while. Parenting is hard, and this is just the first hard thing she'll have to do. She might as well get used to it.

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Him not wanting to be off her isn't from attachment parenting. Attachment parenting done right promotes independence. Lol Anyway I would definitely say something. Show her news stories of children dying from not being buckled in properly. There is no excuse, the baby cries when put in the car properly? Too bad. He will just have to scream. I love all the other commenters suggestions but for me I would do the 'extreme' and show her what happens. 

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Autumn • Mar 11, 2016
It really all depends on how you do it . My friend did attachment parenting with her son (not right) and he's a little excuse my language shit

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Autumn • Mar 11, 2016
I know how much it sucks for her having to listen to him scream but I think she'd prefer a screaming child to a dead child. Not trying to be harsh but it's true

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❤️ • Mar 11, 2016
Well then I guess those studies are crap then lol