What would you do?

Question

I just had my 1st baby in January, this is my SO 3rd child. He has 2 from a previous relationship. I just found out that he got his ex pregnant 3 months after me. So she's due next month and I just now found out. This is so hard for me, i never though this would happen to me. I'm so broken and I don't know what to do. I know what he did was wrong extremely wrong and now he's going to have another child with her. But I think about my child as well and I don't want her to be with out her father I don't know if we should try to make it work or just cut things off. Please any advice, or words of wisdom.

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Your kid doesnt have to be "fatherless" just because yall split up. My son has an amazing relationship with his father, whom i am divorced from. Nobody can answer this for you, its up to you to decide if your ok with being disrespected, or not. I have stated many many many times on this app that i would NEVER stay with a cheater, its not my cup of tea and i am not willing to look past that kind of deceit. I believe if you love someone you would not be capable of doing something like that to them. But thats me.....you have to decide if this is the kind if relationship you want? Can you look at him everyday knowing he did this? Can you move past it? Do what is best for you and your child, but do not feel like its best to stay just because yall have a kid together. Two happy homes is better than one home full of hatred and distrust.

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Obviously trust is out the window. If you can't trust someone, you can't truly be happy with them and I promise from personal experience, it will cause more arguments and upset. Your baby doesn't deserve to be around that. What he had done was incredibly wrong, there's NO excusing it. Period. However, only you know what you are willing to put up with. Just because you spilt, doesn't mean your baby won't have a father figure. Regardless of what you decide, you need to find a way to work through this and have a healthy relationship with him for your baby, otherwise the next 18+ years will be miserable. You know what's best for you and that baby and regardless of how I feel or how anyone feels, that's what's most important! Stay strong and I'm so sorry for your situation, I know it's difficult. Good luck momma.

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Just because he is her father doesn't mean he has to be your SO.  Just sayin.

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I'd cut things off with him but do be civil and co parent the best way you can. Even though having mom & dad together is ideal for kids you shouldn't have to deal with someone who doesn't respect you enough not to cheat. Be the best mom you can & focus on yourself and your baby.

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This is exactly why I'd never be with a man who has kids from a previous relationship . Not saying all men do this but I'm not willing to take the risk . I personally wouldn't forgive him , he cheated then took how long to let you know he was having another baby ? No , just no .

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