What if I want to get married and my boyfriend isn't married?

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I have no idea what to do. We are both 21. I have expressed to him that I want to be married. All I want is to be married at a young age and seeing all these people my age or younger getting married really gets to me. It's like that's what I want soo badly! And a lot of the times the people getting married haven't even dated as long as my boyfriend and I have, for 3 years.
 Ever since I was little I knew I wanted to be married at a young age and thought a would be.
I want to be married like now. He says he's not ready and has basically told me he doesn't want to any time soon. Even within a few years. I really don't want to end it, but I really want to be with someone who is thinking about marriage right now. I don't know what to do and it's so hard. I get really emotional about this subject. 
Has anyone waited to get married when they wanted to a lot sooner? Or had anything similar to this? Or just any advice for me?

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Woah, slow down. Are you really willing to give up happiness for the sake of a ring? Marriage is not everything and if you can't be happy without it, you'll probably find that you can't be happy with it.

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Marriage is just a title and you shouldn't let that affect your relationship, right now. It should just be about being together and loving each other. Of course it will be great to be married, but only if you're BOTH ready. Me and my boyfriend have been together for going on four years, and we've talked about getting married but he wants to wait til we have all our finances in order so it can be perfect. Plus it'll be a complete surprise when he proposes ☺️Try not to pressure him too hard, cause that can totally be a turn off to some people and you could end back up at square one. Just enjoy and focus on being together, a title shouldn't define true happiness. Everything will work out when it's supposed to :)

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It more sounds like you want to live together over being married at the moment. Talk to him about it. Explain your feelings and see where it goes. Don't rush into marriage because you had an ideal of being married young. I thought I would be married young but I am 25 now and dating the same guy for 8 years and we still aren't married yet. Don't get to caught up in the titles and let a piece of paper ruin a relationship.

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If you're happy why change it? Marriage is basically just a piece of paper. My husband and I were basically married before we even got married. We only made it legal for military benefits. In Az there is no common law marriage.

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I was 20 and my husband was 23 when we started dating and I told him when he asked me to be his girlfriend that I date for marriage. I realize that can be intense but I preferred him leave then then wait years to find out we were on different pages. I'd wait awhile and see how you feel in a few months and try not to bring it up to him too much. If this end up being something you still feel strongly about then I think finding someone who truly feels the same as you is really important. I hope this helps ?

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Well if he says he's not ready then chances are, he's not. I know that's not what you want to hear. I've always felt it's really important to hold similar views with your SO about really important issues, marriage being one of them.  It's hard to tell you what to do cause if you love him and your relationship is great it would be difficult to end it. But what I also think can happen is that you'll continue to bring it up and he'll try to avoid it and you two could possibly begin to resent each other.

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What specific reasons do you have for wanting to be married? If it's just for the simple fact of "being married" is it really the right thing to do? You are still young, enjoy each other and enjoy being young! I was 22 when I got married...I'm now 32 and have been divorced for a year and a half, no kids cause he didn't want them so I gave up on that want and quit asking. Things change, people change, especially as they grow older. Let things take their course, if it's meant to be it will happen. You don't have to be married to have a good, healthy, stable relationship.

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Oh my gosh!  totally meant to say what if I want to get married and my boyfriend isn't ready!
I  don't know how to delete my post so I can fix it! I!

What if I want to get married and my boyfriend isn't married?

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