Using a toy with your so....

After a year I finally got him interested in using a toy while having sex, it was even his idea! But during sex he told me to play with the toy bc he didn't know what to do so I did but then he started making comments like omg it's squeezing together, are u gonna cum yet, does my dick not work...bc of of not shutting up and just enjoying it he made me really self cautious and paranoid so it took a few for me to cum...but when it finally happened bc I didn't squirt all over him or nothing physically came out he called me a liar that I didn't cum, that he knows when a woman cums...then he said he wouldn't allow me to use it anymore during but the next night he tried to get me to get it out and I refused bc I didn't wanna hear his comments or smart remarks, he made me feel like I'm less of a woman bc I didn't squirt or nothing when I did have the big O...question is have any other women had the big O but not squirt or not have anything come out?? Should I just not use the toy anymore but yet he won't even do foreplay or help me get off when we do have sex that's why I wanted the toy...I've never had a g spot orgasm....idk how....anyone help me?