Should you get married before having kids?

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I do want to have children i just turn 25 & my boyfriend is 32 we have been together for almost 2 years he has been married before for 8 years but he is now divorced.I really want to be married before having children we both dont have any.But he never mentioned marriage to me & we never really talk about it.But he does want children & its only because i asked how does he feel about having them one day.Honestly i dont want pressure him about marriage but i have wasted my life with people in my past & i dont want to waste any time now.I just dont understand by him being older he should want me more then i do but he dont has time go on i dont think i can do another year without at least a engagement ring idk what do you all think?

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I wanted to get married before as I was worried with the financial burden that comes with babies I might never get the wedding I wanted. We had our day and honeymoon as two and now waiting on little bean in October ❤️

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I feel like this is a conversation that should be done within a few months of dating no they don't have to decide if they want to marry you right then but you should at least know if they ever want to get married or have kids.

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I don't think you have to. You shouldn't get married to someone just for the purpose of having children. I've been engaged to my fiancé for 4 years and have two boys with him, if we never get married it won't bother me at all

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Totally your call
If you want to have a child without being married it's completely fine.

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Now if we're talking on a religious  basis,then yes but if your biological clock is ticking like mine, we're gonna have to put the marriage on the back burner and focus on TTC. I LIKE TO CALL IT OUR "PROJECT".

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That's up to you, I've have a daughter and I'm not married yet. Been with her dad for 4 years now.

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I'm divorced and my bf was never married and he has mentioned it and I brush it off bc really it's just a piece of paper to me, having a child with someone in a committed strong healthy relationship is more important to me

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I mean I didn't. To each their own.

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I'd talk to him. In this day in age there are alot of benefits for not being married and benefits from being married. I would just talk to him. My bf and I have been together for 7 years and arnt married and are trying for our 1st baby. We are just living life and we know eventually marriage will happen.

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It's completely up to you, marriage doesn't mean the same to every person. You have to do what feels right for you and your SO. I personally felt like following the "tradition" college/degree/job/house/marriage/kids route because it was important to me. Probably because that was not the way I was born or raised in. But doesn't make me any better or "right" then someone who decides to have children first. It sounds like marriage is important to you, so you should express that to your SO.

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