Unfair "partnership"
My daughter woke up to feed just before 1am, she's a very noisy eater and my SO woke up and told me to "fuckin wind her already" she had literally only just come off my breast. I'm trying to hang on a few minutes before winding her as she's sick quite a bit. Anyway I said this to him and he got mad and said it again, stating that she clearly needs winding, so I said if he wants he can do it, since he knows better, his response was to call me an idiot and tell me to fuck off.
Because of this my LG would not go to sleep, she always falls to sleep while nursing through the night but I'm guessing the the arguing prevented that. So she was crying a lot and working herself up so much she wouldn't go to sleep. My SO was getting really irritated by her crying, but didn't once offer to help! I've ended up having to bring her downstairs and sleep in the living room with her because of the way he was being about it.
He'd already had a go at me earlier in the evening because he wanted to hold her and I said ok but if he wakes her he can put her back to sleep. Then he tried starting an argument because he asked what's up and I said I was tired, he snapped that he's tired too, he has to work all day. I wouldn't mind but I never complain of being tired, he asked. He also gets to sleep all night. But still complains all the time he's tired, when he's off work he doesn't do any morning to help with our daughter, he doesn't even give me 20 minutes to go shower. He sleeps late, plays his computer games then will go get a bath then have the cheek to ask why I'm annoyed, when I've been up since 6am had one drink, not been able to get any breakfast and he will make himself tea and toast but not offer to make me anything. I struggle to get a glass of water off him most days
I knew parenthood wasn't going to be easy but I never expected it be so one-sided, it's certainly putting aassive strain on our relationship, I'm starting to resent him
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So we went out for tea and I spoke to him, less chance of him starting an argument if we're in public. He decided I expect him to stay up all night with her when he's got work, I said no but when he can hear I'm having difficulty winding her of getting her to sleep he could offer to take her for an hour, even half an hour! I ended up getting quite upset and he promised to help me tonight. his way of helping is fucking off downstairs when our daughter started crying! So I guess that's out the window.
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