Am I crazy for wanting this...?

Question

I had a termination afew months ago. It was medically advised and the best thing for my family. It was also the biggest mistake I've ever made. I feel horrible and will never forgive myself. Since then all I've wanted is to become pregnant again. I was hoping with all my heart that the procedure failed but I know it didn't and now all I can think about is having another baby. My fiance doesn't understand why I feel like I need to have another baby. I feel like if I could fall pregnant again then maybe, just maybe, it might help to ease my guilt. I know it won't bring back the baby I terminated but a part of me thinks that if I can fall pregnant again as soon as possible it would be like I never went through with the termination and I can forget it ever happened.

Am I crazy for feeling like this?

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You're not crazy for feeling that way. However, another baby will never replace the one you terminated. Also, would you not be risking the same health issue with a future pregnancy? Sounds like you could benefit from some counseling to deal with the mental and emotional ramifications of the abortion. If you know the Lord, prayer can also help.

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I dont think your crazy i think youre grieving and you should allow yourself too, i understand that the guilt can eat you up but until you can realise and accept that it was a medical decision and best for you then i dont think you should try and bring another baby into the world. A baby isnt a project to take your mind off something theyre humans that need 100% of your attention all of the time and until youve dealt with your emotions you cant be there for them 100% of the time even if you think you would. Im sorry for your loss though and hopefully over time youll have your little family xx

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If you had the pregnancy terminated for medical reasons and those issues have been resolved and you've been cleared by a doctor then I think it's okay to try again. If you had the pregnancy terminated because you weren't ready for a baby at the time I think you should wait. A new pregnancy won't cancel out the regret of a prior abortion, that's something you need to fix in yourself and it would probably be a good idea to see a therapist.

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I'm sorry you are feeling so bad.  Maybe you should see a counselor or find a support group for what you have been through be for  you push for more changes.  I hope you find what you need.

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Maybe you should seek some help fr counseling. I think you shouldn't have a baby to try and replace another.

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You are mourning a loss. Give yourself time to grieve and please see a qualified therapist. It could help with the healing.

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Work through the grief in a healthy way. Having another child is a distraction. But it won't erase the grief.

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This is a very common reaction I've found, at least in my experience. I had two friends who had abortions bc try were not ready to start a family and ended up with baby fever afterwards. Both ended up having 3 and 4 kids each. If it's medically safe for you to get pregnant now, I say do it.

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Its perfectly natural for a woman to want a baby. And its with a lot of love that a mother brings her baby into the world. And you are feeling guilty of not doing so. 
You are mature enough thats why you allowed the termination despot your want to keep it.  So now go ahead with your plan, (thats what I feel) and all the best in your ttc journey! :)

Am I crazy for wanting this...?

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