How do would u deal with a situation where your husband or SO believes he is correct and things should be handled the way he sees fit?

He is entirely anal and OCD about household cleanliness... but I think sometimes he takes it to the extreme. Yesterday he went into the kids rooms and there were a few things left on the dresser and floor and behind the closed door of their closets it was unorganized.

He thinks "I'm disrespectful of his feelings BC I know how he feels about this". I myself can't stand clutter or filth but this was neither. We are currently in the midst of a huge argument BC of this.

Most times I just give in to his wants to keep confusion down, but I don't think my feelings thoughts and opinions are being heard or validated.

I just don't know what to do. I've tried to talk to him but he only sees it from his perspective.