My Pageant Princess 🥰

Aloha everyone. My sweet little princess in the Little Miss Beauty Pageant and if every could go vote that would be amazing. We are not asking for paid votes if you could just do the free vote that still makes all the difference. Mahalo 🌺 Her link is below. We are trying to be #1 in Hawaii 🌴https://littlemissbeauty.com/6852900013666190/

Virtual counseling, does it exist?

Im in desperate need of counseling but i have limited time and travel a lot. Id heard about 7 years ago that there was virtual online counseling through militaryone source, i think, but where is the resource for that or has anyone actually had direct experience with it? If anyone here wants to chat and help.me with my struggles i am very open to that too. Im experiencing anxiety I've not had before, chest pain (already been to ER and Dr for follow.up), my husband has been deployed but is returning but i have caught him in lots of lies from alcohol poisoning to long term alcohol abuse and sneaky investment deals and stupid little lies like when he is returning and when he is pcsing. I also found out he is no longer promotable for his last 6 years of 20 years but hes trying to tell me its his bosses fault because he claims they told him he has reached his "full potential". They told him this when he had only been a Major for 3 years and 7 months. I was prior military back in the 90's and my background is also criminal justice investigations so I've found red flags and lies in his " story". Then there is my 19 yr old daughter, lying, smoking pot but also smoking it IN our home and IN my mothers car that was temporarily LOANED to her till her jobs were enough to buy her own. Before you people defend the marijuana, my son and mother both are anaphylaxis allergic to marijuana and it makes me really sick at any exposure level. My son now has an epi pen his allergy is so severe. Now shes been fired from all 3 jobs because she chose not to show to go party but is lying to me that its not her fault and such. Then there is my 15 year old son who is in his 2nd year as a freshman in online high school but is failing again and not doing the school work, again and may not even pass this year again. I get he wants to be in person school but everytime he even walks by someone that has.smoked.or vaped pot and its just on their clothes, he ends up in a medical episode. So in person school , especially high school , is literally not an option. I still have a 17 and 9 and 4 year old at home too. It's a lot to handle and i thought i was doing okay but my body is saying otherwise. Im 46 1/2 yrs old and have asked if unbalanced hormones are a factor or my thyroid but my dr just labs and says normal and.sends me off. Ive preliminarily read that very early perimenopause can create a hormone imbalance that directly affects stress and anxiety but if my dr wont listen to me and check my levels how will i know. Yes i know i need mental health at this point to but i need the resources to get there. Thank you to anyone that read to this point. God bless

Anyone stationed at schofield barracks, Hawaii ?

Any wives in Schofield Barracks , Hawaii? This is my first pcs being married to my husband and I just gave birth 2/25 so I’m really hoping to have someone to talk to while he is working and an adventure buddy.

military spouse in doubt

*no hate pls just need to vent*I feel like I made a mistake marrying so young. Honestly I've said it before if my husband hadn't joined the army of course I wouldn't have gotten married at 19. Our relationship is more like friends now, I know he would never want to end it but more than anything I am thinking about myself, I don't want to be forced to stay in a relationship that I don't want to be in. I'm just afraid of what it'll do to him, what my family will think that I just "gave up". I've tried talking my feelings out but he NEVER listens, he always puts his or his friends needs over mine, cannot clean for the life of him, constantly nagging about why I'm not "in the mood" and I tell him that it's me, I'm not comfortable walking around the house naked like he is, and the nagging just makes it worse because I always just give in and it's not enjoyable. I just contacted a therapist to get some help for my self, but in the meantime, do any of you regret it? or if you did get divorced (not due to cheating or abuse) were people supportive of bettering yourself?

Army Wife Support Group

It’s their a support group for new army wives ? I am getting married this week and I’m still very terrified of my husband getting deployed I’d just like some people to lean on. Plus I’ll be creating care packages for him and I’d like advice.

Military divorce..

How would you go about talking to your spouse about a divorce? The army changed him which I wasn't surprised about, and I do love him still but I'm not IN love with him anymore.. moving so far from my life back home is still hard but I just feel like he is living the life he wants (always wanting to be in the army) and I know deep down he wants to reenlist but doesn't because of me, but I definitely dont want to be the reason he misses out on more experience. Again, I feel like he's getting to do what he wants and I'm just here trying to get whatever job is hiring and just work and home, because I've tried making friends and no luck, I just feel like I'm stuck in this situation I'm only 21 about to be 22 and I know I should've thought it through more but it seemed like a good idea then, now I just want to live my life in my 20s, and if I stay and still feel the same in a few years? It's just more time of my life that has gone and past. Any advice helps thank you guys.

Army wife

I thought I will become an army wife this year but he's getting married to someone else in a few months.Good bye Army Wives

any Fort Benning wives on here?

we just moved here in September. We are expecting baby #2 August’21 and hubby is being deployed in Jan. Can’t help but to feel alone here so far away from family and friends for the first time in my life.

Military Marriage advice?

I’ve been with my man ever since I was 17. He joined the military when I was 20 and we’ve been long distance ever since. We recently got married(I’m 24) and now I’ll be moving cross country to finally live with him. He’s currently deployed and had deployed days after we eloped. My issue: I struggle with my mental health and can’t help but to fear/feel terrible I got married while I have random bursts of anxiety. And thinking about this gives me even more anxiety. What should I do? Is this normal? I know he knows I struggle with anxiety.. but he hasn’t had to deal with me day to day in such a long time

On the verge of a break down😭🥺

I’m on the verge of having a full break down😭my husband is getting stationed in Korea in two months. We’re trying the best to get everything done so we can go together but I have to get it approved by my pulmonologist and the army and I highly doubt it’s going to get approved just because how bad my asthma is. If I don’t get approved I’m stuck without him for a year. Which might not seem long but it is to me when we’ve been around each other constantly almost. And with wanting and trying for a baby for what seems like forever and everyone around is getting pregnant so easily. It’s definitely bringing me down

New Army Wife

I’m a new army wife and my husband is deployed. Any advice or anything? To night is the first night and I’m honestly having a hard time. I miss him so much.

I know how this ends...

So I got married last year and my husband joined the army and ever since he came back from basic and his first deployment he has been completely different... he used to do everything to make me happy and now he does nothing but hurt me... Today he kept pulling my shorts down to reveal my butt and I kept telling him to stop and it gets to the point I get angry and slap his arm to make it known I’m being serious. He never takes me seriously.... EVER. It’s my right to not have something I don’t want done to me, done to me... right?! He kept doing it and not giving a crap about how it made me feel.... he pushes me up against walls and have left bruises on me.... worst part is we moved over 1,000 miles away and I don’t have a job to save to leave.... idk any of his higher ups numbers..... I don’t want to live like this anymore...

BAH and housing

So my husband and I got married end of December, however they’ve been promising him a house for quiet some time now. He’s going to be re-enlisting soon because we decided on 3 more years. And i was just wondering how long does it take to get a house after marriage? And like does Army even give a shit about like spouses? Because i haven’t seen him since beginning of January and until he gets a house I’m stuck 2k miles apart. And stuff has just been getting really stressful and my separation anxiety has hit its peak. I’m really thinking of just not going to school for fall semester so i can just find a job where he is get an apartment off base. Even though fort polk is a shithole and I’d rather get a house that’s on base but they’ve been going all over the place. If anyone has suggestions or like any information on how this words please let me know. Because i feel like I’m starting to stress my husband out constantly asking for updates 😕

Anyone live in Oahu?

We’ve been here since August of last year. Any stepmoms?

I’m freaking out

I’m not ready for this 9 month deployment every day it gets closer to the time he needs to leave and every single day i remember and my mood goes down and I get tears that feel like they will never stop i keep telling myself I got this but I don’t I’m afraid, anxious, depressed, worry ect.. i don’t know how I’m going to do this I don’t know how I’m going to build up the courage to get up every morning without him I don’t know how most of you do this I applaud you all for being so brave and strong every single time they deployed.

Camp Henry, Daegu, South Korea ADVICE!!

Hello, We just received orders that we are going to Camp Henry. I would appreciate all and any pieces of advice you ladies would give on the moving process, what to bring, best realtors and best places to live, commuting, maybe the best locations in town, ANYTHING. Thank you soooooo much.

Idk what todo

My husband is depriving me of sex because he’s so tired from his job. I feel that masturbating is wrong and unfair to him because I want to experience it together. I tried talking to him but the fact that he’s tired is all that we ever really talk about...shoot, the army and what’s going on with him seems to be all we ever talk about even when I bring up my feelings... what do I do?

first date!

so the army guy i’ve been talking to for over a month now is coming home today, saturday, and we’re going on our first date sunday night! i have not idea what i need to bring up and what not to bring up? please help!!

new guy?!

sooo i’ve been talking to this guy recently, he’s in the army and is currently training in mississippi at the moment! i actually went to school with him, he graduated a year before me, and he actually use to live beside me! things have been going super great recently with him! we have our first date when he comes home in november! do any of you have a significant other in the military? or a significant other that are away a lot for work? how do you cope with them being gone for so long??