Me (30f)and my partner (30m) have been together for 7 years. We have 2 children, 4m & 3f. We have 2 dogs and have our own home.

When I was pregnant in 2020 with my son my partner decided he wanted to start his own business, this is all during lockdown. We agreed this was a good idea and I fully encouraged it and supported him.

Since then the business has been a slow burner but the no days off and 18 hour days are really starting to pay off and the business is thriving.

During the last 4/5 years he’s been working and paying all the bills and I have literally picked everything else up, all he does is leave the house to work, comes home, eats, sleeps, showers and repeats. I do everything else you can imagine needs doing. He has only woken up once when the children was babies, and went straight to back to sleep.

He has his priority’s, and I have mine. But he is still in the top 3. Im not even in his top 10. However, it has pretty much been like this from having babies, we understood a sacrifice was going to happen to ensure that our future was better than our current situation.

Anyway about a month ago he said he wanted to have more babies with me and I said yes! He said start tracking and we will start making. Then, over the last few weeks he’s been so distant with me. He won’t even cuddle me, I kept asking what’s wrong and he kept saying it was me being paranoid and he was just tired. I have felt like for months he is no longer attracted to me and has no sexual desire anymore. We never have sex, maybe once in a blue moon. But he kept saying it’s all in my head.

Then we took our kids out yesterday, his first day off in weeks and over the table he goes

“I’m not happy anymore, I love you but I’m not in love with you and I don’t think I want this anymore”

Naturally, I cried, I stopped very quickly but it was in sheer shock to hear it. I’m aware things in terms of us being closer could happen but life is lifeing right now. After about a hour of talking I agreed with him that we had let so many other things take over in our life that we have no longer made each other a priority and that the best solution moving forward is to separate.

The moment I mentioned breaking up and leaving he starts begging for me to not leave? begging.. tears. Saying he does love me, but he just isn’t sure but he does love me and wants to be with me.

Today, I am so confused, I agreed to stay but I can’t get it out of my head that 4 weeks ago he wanted to have a baby, then couldn’t be near me, then tells me he’s not in love with me, then begs me to stay?

What do I think? im so uncertain I can be happy now knowing this. I cant get his words out of my head

Thanks

Love