I need some advice

So I don’t have anyone I can really ask this question of and hopefully people aren’t going to judge on this. I have a lot of trauma from sexual abuse I suffered as a kid and as a result I struggle with men and males when a romantic or sexual relationship develops. I have a guy from work who I fooled around with a couple times and I decided to stop it because I was getting uncomfortable but he has started it up again and I don’t…….I don’t know how to tell him no…..I didn’t ever really learn how to do that kinda thing because it never really…..worked and now I’m terrified and crying because I’m so scared of what to say or of him pushing me to do something again. So my question is……how do I tell him no?

Am.I.wring for wanting one night off?

Hi everyoneI am a young mom of 2. I had my first little one when i was 18 and the next when I was 20.I never really had my nights out or with friends and I didn't finish school die to financial reasons.Me and my husband don't really care who the other spends time with. Not in a mean way but i have alot if male friends and my previous relationship the guy hated it and i had to cut them off. So when i met my husband ny first words word were I am not doing it again.He agreed. But lately after our latest I feel overwhelmed like he never offers to help. Im a stay at home mom. But he gets home and is on his phone or infront of the tv. I get it he works his tired i don't try and say he does nothing.But he never voluntarily does something if I am busy I have to drop everything get everything ready and then ask him to just please change or feed the baby. He gets irritated when he has to soorh the baby cause im calling a friend or my family.Even on weekends he gets up early sits infront of the tv and plays games. I have to still do everything, tend to the kids and so on. One of my friends birthdays are coming up and I approached him with the details. I said we were both invited and I would really like to attend how does he feel. He just brushed it offI know he doesn't want to party anymore so I added that he didn't have to come but the party is rather far so I would spend the night with the friends...he has met them all.So i asked if there is any possibility of me going just for a night being gone for the party and spending the night as to not have to travel an hour back at like 2 in the morning. But i get ignored.He just got a whole kid free week. Where I had the kids all week and he had it off we had all gone away for the holidays to family and he left early. So he was home a week with no worrie sof the kids.But now that I ask if I could just be gone from a friday afternoon till Saturday morning I get ignored or just get 'well see".Is it to much for me to ask for one night to just be my age?

idk what to do about this

tw: mention of $uïcïd3 and SHthis is a long rant btw so fair warning.so my best friend of 17 years, who id consider like a sister to me, recently told me she wanted to unalive herself. this was about three ish weeks ago. last saturday, i woke up to a text saying "i'm home alone and i have the pills in my hand i'm going to take them" and i immediately freaked out and called her mom and told her what was happening and that she should either call my best friend or to call the police. her mom called her and then got back to me and said that everything was okay but i spend the whole day worried sick. three weeks ago when she told me how she felt, same thing happened; i felt sick to my stomach because i was so worried.but the thing is, she does this every few years and i have a feeling it's for attention which sounds absolutely FUCKED but i'm being honest. she used to SH and then send me pictures and videos of it when i was going through the same thing which was extremely triggering for me. she'll tell me she's going to off herself but then appear completely fine and happy the next day. i've been in her place, i've attempted multiple times and it's not like that. you don't tell someone that you're gonna do it and look happy the next day. but idk. i'm absolutely exhausted trying to keep her alive because it's not my responsibility. it's not my job. ofc i want her alive but i can't keep her here if she is being serious. idk what to do anymore. it's making my already bad mental health to the point where i'm shutting down and pushing her out, pushing my bf out, i'm not doing well at work, i'm not sleeping well, not eating well. i really don't know what to do.i have a genuine fear that the people closest to me don't want to be alive anymore and will act on it. my bf has expressed the same thoughts as my best friend and i have nightmares about it constantly. that either her, my bf, or someone else i care about will attempt and i can't do anything to help or stop it.

Check this out

Hello I be feeling sad/ depressed. Three weeks ago I fell off of a ladder resetting my security cameras at home, I ended up breaking on wrist and crushed the other which I ended up getting emergency surgery. On my wrist. Yall its definitely depressing because I am use to doing for myself, and can't at do much of anything. My wife has been a amazing blessings of help. I have equipment in my wrist now. Job is on hold/ FMLA with pay. Just a little bit depressed...

Scary sui**intrusive thoughts...

Been dewling with this for a while its been getting stronger to the point i weep bc this isnt what i want to do. I tried therapy for a 2nd time i had a session today this guy wasnt it. He was more concerned about solving my.financisl problems by being a hair braider and speaking positive affirmation over myself. I have meds like wellbutrin but im afraid of the side effects... im texting w crisis line rn bc i mnow theyll help me find a therapist that takes medicaid

Scared

Im scared to do this alone … I haven’t told anyone n I’m only 20 … me n the father aren’t together anymore and I feel like I wouldn’t n won’t and don’t have the support from him or anyone… I’m alone … sorry this sounds depressing

How long is a typical psychiatric hospital stay?

My husband attempted suicide Friday night. He’s been admitted in a psychiatric unit since. He’s been taking the depression meds they prescribed him. Going to all the meetings. Seeing the therapist. He is so miserable there and begs me every time he calls me to come home. They won’t tell him how long he’ll be there when he asks. I fear being there so isolated is making him feel worse. My question is if you or anyone you know had a stay like this, how long was it? When I tried googling it said it depends on how long your insurance will cover the stay. We have Medicaid so I have no idea. I’m just so worried about him. I know he’s getting care he needs there but he hates it there. He’s isolated from all family and hates being around a bunch of strangers. I visited him today for the first time and we weren’t allowed any physical contact so we couldn’t even hug. I wish I could help him more idk what to do 😞

Period data - 7 years of tracking disappeared…

Anyone else had all their data disappear? All I seem to be able to see is a feed of random topics… anyone else experienced this? Thanks

Feeling self conscious

I had a little accident and fainted the other day, I hit the floor pretty hard and got a lovely concussion and bump to the head as well as whiplash to neck and shoulders. I also chipped my front teeth. I had to pay for an emergency dentist appointment and have been told they will not be able to fix it for another 5 weeks meaning I have to go out in public looking like this. I am feeling so self-conscious of how I look because of it and actually started crying in the dentists office cause I feel rubbish and now I have to go out in public feeling like I look ugly, I don’t know what to do to feel better or more confident. I’ve got 2 holidays to go on before my teeth are fixed and can’t believe I have to go away looking like this. I am meeting some of my partners fsmily next week and will be meeting them with a horrible bruise on my head and chipped teeth, this is not how I thought summer would go.

PTSD from convincing my brother to stay alive

TW: suicidal thoughts and conversationsOver a year ago, my brother had a total mental health crisis (not his first). I ended up getting a call from him at 1 AM sobbing, saying things like “I don’t think I’m ever going to get out of this” and other things of that nature. The conversation led to me trying to convince him not to end his life. Thankfully, he was able to calm down that night but I think about it every single day. The emotional toll this has taken on me has affected my own health, both mentally and physically. It was so scary and I never want to do that again. He is an alcoholic with severe anxiety, paranoia, depression, and OCD. He may even have some sort of personality disorder. Has anyone dealt with this? I am just so tired. I love him but I can’t be that person for him. The guilt of that admission is so heavy.

TW: attempted suicide

My husband tried to commit suicide late Friday night (technically Saturday)He had his 🔫 to his temple and when he pulled the trigger he hit a pothole and it jerked his hand and the bullet grazed his forehead and went out the car window. He’s been in the hospital since the cops finally located him and has been moved to the psych unit since yesterday. I don’t know how to handle this. He’s in there but he’s refusing help. He talks to the psychiatrist only because he has to but he’s being short with them. He’s refusing to take depression medication. The cops said he can have his gun back when he gets out which baffles me. Every time I talk to him on the phone he wants me to act like nothing happened. I’m not questioning him or anything but when I start to cry (because hitting a pothole literally saved his life) he gets angry and says stop feeling sorry for me and that he’s fine. He won’t take calls from anyone but me because he doesn’t wanna have to explain himself, which I get. But all of his family is worried about him which he seems angry about. I don’t know what he expects us to act like. Like we obviously aren’t gunna pretend it didn’t happen, he could be dead right now. He’s saying he’s not going to therapy when he gets out. Refusing meds. Wants to start carrying his gun again (he has a CPL), and go right back to normal. I’m just baffled and idk how to navigate this. Has someone else gone through this with someone? I’m lost. I’ve spent the last 3 days taking care of our 4 year old and 1 year old alone trying to figure out how to pay our bills so he doesn’t have to stress while he’s there and my dad is helping us out just for him to bite my head off for worrying about him when we talk. I’m scared for his future. I’m anxious. I’m sad, angry, everything. Any advice?

Lost..

So back in December I finally pulled the trigger on getting a divorce from my husband. Overall we’ve been married for 3 years and together almost 10. Since our separation in February of this year,I’ve been overthinking a lot. We haven’t filed any paperwork yet and I’m honestly scared to. I didn’t want a divorce but I felt that was the only option due to him being an alcoholic and our constant fighting. I mentioned plenty of marriage counseling,church, date nights, journaling things that I thought would help but nothing. I gave my all and when I said I wanted the divorce,I was still in love with him. Over the months of being separated we’ve talked here and there and he said certain things to make us work and God almighty I miss him so damn much and still love him but the problem is I always said “once I leave someone I’ll never go back.” However, I’ve met this amazing man that treats me like a queen but he has two older kids(13&16) and mentioned little comments how he doesn’t want anymore kids. When in fact I was hesitant for a minute on wanting kids of my own but now I’m starting to want to have one. So I’m stuck on trying to make it work with my future ex-husband cause I’m still in love with him and he’s changed so I can see or carry on this relationship with this amazing man that I will never have kids with ever. Just been depressed for a good minute that’s all..

regret. need to vent.

i never talk about this but i just want some input i guess.. how the hell can i regret a decision so much that was the right thing to do?? i had an abortion at 18, i have a long list of mental disorders since 12 its depressing.. my mom was already having a baby and other than her and bf i had NO support system. my now fiance’s family hated him for me being pregnant. so many things. so many people that told me to do it. and now i just sit and cry wondering if i couldve made it work..(truly i dont think i couldve) wishing i kept an ultrasound picture and the tests. i rushed thru the entire process and i didnt think. i just did. i cant look at myself anymore and i get this pain in my chest and my throat starts to close. i just wanna be with my baby and tell them im sorry.. i was so so so stupid at the time. i wish i at least didnt smoke or drink a lot while you were here. but i wasnt thinking. anyway whoever reads this thanks. say whatever you want, cant hurt me more than what ive already done 🫠edit: i was on frkin birth control btw, took it almost st the same time daily and i still conceived. which makes me feel worse sum how haha

My anxiety and depression is worse than I thought

I will keep it short as possible but I’m 26 and I had my son almost 2 years ago and I thought for a while it was postpartum depression, for 1 year I took medical leave for my mental health. I was diagnosed with Adjustment Disorder with anxiety and depression. I was prescribed Zoloft but I didn’t take them. I tried therapy but then got busy when I started working again. I was starting to feel better once I went back to the workforce, I quit the job I dreaded coming back and began a new adventure at a different specialty. I was happy with my decision and felt proud to get out of the house. I’ve removed myself from people I felt were toxic in my life, I have set boundaries with my parents, I have a couple great friends of 10 years I can run to, I have a supportive husband, my toddler son is the easiest and most loving child I know, I landed myself a high paying job a year ago and still love what I do, and finally I gotinto the nursing program at the school I want. Yet…. Here I am still battling with myself. And can’t figure out what it is. We had watch Inside Out 2 the other day I balled my eyes out with heart palpitations in the bathroom because I deal with that anxiety and energy nearly everyday, “I’m not good enough”. My husband obviously followed and tried to comfort me, yet I was so embarrassed for me to see me this way because I do appreciate what I have and I never want my little family to think they’re not enough when they’re more than enough and I’m super blessed to have them. I’ve been telling myself for weeks now, maybe I need to make a couple of changes like some weight and cut alcohol. I don’t drink everyday, more like a drink or two on a Saturday if we’re out but if we are drinking at home or someone’s house I’ll get drunk and the hangover is definitely worse than when I was 21. It’s to the point I’m starting to hate to drink. I’m debating about quitting all together. I don’t smoke but for the past year I’ve been relying on caffeine and only Starbucks (I know it’s expensive and it adds up). I would love to quit that but that seems so much harder than quitting alcohol. Today…. I had a realization that social media may have an affect on me too watching other people, most of the people I have I’m happy to see them doing well and only want best for them, I love seeing them being happy. Then there’s a couple of people I cannot stand and following them feels like an obligation (husbands friends, BIL and MIL [FIL and his gf I get along with] who I do believe want bad for me) and if I unfollow it may drag me some kind of feud I don’t care to be in. Especially his friends, they stop including us and thank goodness because theres so much drama amongst them. Yet if I post one of our outings then someone’s feelings are hurt. It’s actually dreadful to be having these certain people on my feed and I tried changing view settings yet I’ll look them up later to see anything new. I’m frustrated with myself for being curious. So again, I’m debating about shutting off my accounts and take a break for a year while I’m in school and see what that does. The biggest question is, will these changes make a difference? Will I feel better by then? I don’t know where to begin.

Stop smoking weed realize I can’t stand husband

We have smoked weed together our entire relationship, 6 years. It first started a few times a week, then everyday after work, then all night after work, after Covid started working from home now all we do is smoke all day. Have stopped briefly before, I was a miserable cunt and I can feel it coming back trying to stop again. The thing is when I am not stoned out of my gourd, I realize all the things he does to me that I fucking hate and I stew and get pissed and never say anything for fear of “starting a fight” “being bitchy” or anything. How do I cope with these new feelings without wanting to run for the fucking hills every time he pisses me off. Some things I’m getting pissed about seem irrational, but right now I can’t help it. I feel like a cup just constantly over flowing and there is no going back. Please help, I want us to be sober but I don’t want it to ruin our relationship.

I have no one to talk to

Hello , I’m 23 years old pregnant with my first child and there are mostly night that I feel utterly and completely alone . It weight in heavy on me , a little on why I been feeling this way is because of family . I have a beautiful niece that is about to be 4 ofc she is the first grandchild in the family so i completely understand where all the attention goes to and im not asking my family to give me any specific attention but I do ask that they acknowledge that is is another baby coming at least . Unfortunately they are already picking favorites even after I have spoken to them . If anyone Hispanic or not can relate is that people like putting in there two cents where it’s not needed . I haven’t really been enjoying it pregnancy do to all the bickering family has done . The one and true person I can count on is my husband and i still feel alone even if he shows and gives me love during this pregnancy. Just want to know is someone can relate to this or maybe I do need therapy which I am highly considering now .

21 and job pay

I am a caregiver making 12hr - 40hrsI work with a great family, i take care of a (74 M) and he has his(71 F) wife. Don’t let the age fool you, they are a burst of energy and fun. I also take care of my dad who is in his late 50s, disabled vet - blind in one eye, and medium mobility issues. I’m a landlord, we have a farm to tend too and I plan to go back to school in the spring.With all the work that comes into caregiving/ taking care of my dad. Sometimes I feel ungrateful for no being happy with the pay and neglecting my mental health. All my job/ agency care about is me showing up for them, never about how i’m feeling or what i’m going through. I feel so burned out by everything that’s on my plate, I didn’t help my case by being 2 months pregnant now. My dad warned me that being pregnant will “ruin my life”.. Idk what to do, apart of me wants to give up, the other wants me to find a new job bc all i’ve ever talked about it furthering my career outside of caregiving because i’ve been in this career for 3 years. now that i have to care for my dad - i question myself about my job a lot. i’m losing my mind, and it’s all my fault.

My mom is moving…

My mom and I are very close and we are always together. My Dad passed away 4 years ago and my mom is all I have. She’s my everything and most of all she’s my best friend. But now she wants to expand her wings a move. She wants to go back to where is she from. She is leaving in August and I already feel this nostalgic feeling. I feel I will lose my best friend. We do everything together and now I will have to walk alone. I don’t want to let her know my feelings because I want her to be happy and she deserves that. But I feel so lonely just to think about it. I will be very lonely without my mom.

I have no one to talk to

I had to have an abortion about a year ago now and I’m still so… sad. I don’t regret it because I was not physically or mentally well but I can’t help but wonder how things would be. I feel so sad and I never told a soul that I was even pregnant besides my now ex. I was betrayed while I was throwing up and passing out so it was for the best of course. Just still feel sad.

Tw; death

My brother just died. I’ve never lost someone before I am not sure what to do or how to be there for my family especially my oldest brother. I don’t live close by but are going to see them as soon as we can.