Hello. So…. For the military girlies. I need to know what I should do about this.

So I’m in the national guard and I’ve been in for 3 years and been in the same unit the entire time.

When I got to the unit I was an E-3 (E-4 now) and met a good group of people. One was an E-4 at the time. He was pretty chill and another E-4 said she had some issues with him but wouldn’t go into any details.

At one point a group of us (males and females) decided to hang out outside of drill and we had a bonfire and had a couple of drinks. Now, this entire time I’ve been in a serious relationship and I still am. That night he was very obviously flirting with me and I turned him down… and he even met my boyfriend who came to pick me up.

He promoted a few months ago to E-5 and since then has been an absolute jerk to me. He pretends like he’s doing it out of “love” because we were pretty good friends at one point but I can tell he’s just upset I turned him down.

He’s not my direct line leader at all. There’s been times where he will try and correct my actions which never made any sense to me considering it’s not his place.

One of the times was during a PHA. I’m a medic and was taking vitals while another medic was doing vision. I never specified to any of the service members to go directly to vision. My thing was to just take blood pressures and send them on their way. At the end of the day he noticed a SM’s sheet had a BP but no vision and had the audacity to bring me to the drill pad and ask in front of the SM why I didn’t do his vision, which wasn’t my station in the first place and tried to tell me that I should’ve done it while I was there, even though there was a line of others needing their BP taken. He was going to make me do that SM’s vision but someone had already started doing it. Now, in the middle of him scolding me, my brother (an E-6) noticed and came over and was like “everything good?” And the E-5 got flustered and was like “yeah- yeah we’re good.” So obviously he KNEW he was in the wrong to be trying to correct me the way he was.

There’s been other times where he’s been blatantly rude to me. I was waiting for chow to arrive and the rest of the group I was with decided to start cleaning up and he said “I guess we should go help.” And I was finishing up an email I was writing to my civilian job. I responded “yeah.” And he said “so get off your a**.” Like woah, that was so out of pocket. This probably didn’t help my situation at all but I said “no” and walked off. 😬

Another time I was taking to an E-7, who happens to be my platoon leader, and the E-5 decided to interrupt our conversation to scold me because I didn’t fill something out right on a sheet of paper which again, isn’t even his place to do so.

He says out of pocket things like someone makes a mistake and he’d say “I could see if it was (my name) who did that.” As if it’s not supposed to offend me.

Other times, I’ll do or say something he doesn’t like (never anything inappropriate, just in casual conversation with OTHER people) and he will add himself in and say “I’ll tell your boyfriend” with an annoyed tone like just presenting the fact that I HAVE a boyfriend and he’s upset about it.

One time he even tried to do “corrective action” like PT style smoke sesh on something so minute and my squad leader (E-6) literally intervened and said “you can’t correct MY (sm)”.

He gets out this summer but I’m not sure if I should just try to ignore him or say something to my leadership. It’s just annoying and it makes me hate going to drill.

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