so i have identified as asexual for about 4 years now (i’m 21), and i have yet to find a serious relationship because of my sexuality. living in a world where majority of people are quite literally obsessed with sex, makes my life complicated and leaves me feeling lonely.

i am an attractive woman, which makes things really difficult because people see me in a sexual way because of my attractiveness. when i go out i try to dress conservatively so people don’t get these thoughts in their head about me. i feel extremely uncomfortable when people talk about sex around me and sometimes i even feel grossed out or embarrassed.

finding love has been THE MOST difficult thing in my life, when i start to like a guy and tell him that i’m asexual, they never talk to me again. it’s like all i am worth is sex. they don’t give a shit about my personality. it’s heartbreaking. i even went on a dating app and added photos not showing any of my body and only my face and the bio saying “not looking for anything sexual/hookups” to really get my point across. every guy i swiped on swiped me back, which i was surprised about, but ended up with so many of them talking about how sexy i am, and asking me to come over etc. what don’t you understand buddy?

oh and to top it off, none of my friends understand me, sometimes even think i’m not being serious or that it’s a joke. some tell me that i’ve just never had good sex and i’ll find it one day, or telling me things i need to try. wrong, because i have never had a sexual thought my whole life.

anyone else had these experiences or just felt lonely or like you’ll never find love? has any ace found another ace and been in a happy romantic relationship? i don’t want to be lonely forever 😢 sorry this was so much to read, just had to get it off my chest as not a single person in my life understands me!

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