TTC After Miscarriage

Support for anyone who has had a miscarriage

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Does it get easier??

I feel like an absolute asshole over this. My best friend who I’ve known since college just announced she’s pregnant. I suffered my third miscarriage in May right around the time she got pregnant (didn’t know she was pregnant until today) and now that she’s announced it I feel myself spiraling. This was a huge blow to me because in my mind I was still “ok” that I hadn’t had a baby yet considering I’m 34 and they still didn’t have kids either. Most of my friends have kids if not multiple kids by but ow that she’s pregnant I feel like I’m alone. Stupid to think like that but my brain is being mean. This most recent loss has hit me so much harder and I’m struggling. I’m of course happy for my friend but I’m sad for myself. I know I’ll have to go to a baby shower and see the milestones and birth announcements but I’m so angry that it isn’t me. My husband and I have had set back after set back and I just feel like we keep getting kicked in the teeth. Does it ever get easier to deal with? Because right now it doesn’t feel like it.

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Last reply Sep 11, 2024

Br

My best friend and I both got pregnant with our 3rd completely by surprise last summer. She was about a month ahead of me. I lost my baby at almost 11 weeks, and her daughter just turned 6 months. It was devastating, and I didn’t realize how heavy it would hit me until it hit me. I had known I would love to have another baby, but between unexplained secondary infertility and endometriosis, plus I had just turned 38, it didn’t seem like it was in the cards for us. When those lines popped up on the test I instantly felt that same protective love connection I did for my daughters. And then that little future addition was gone, and my heart was shattered. Although the cracks in my heart have scarred over, I’m still healing, and I think in some ways, always will be. I had to allow myself to be true to my needs and grief in that time, which changed how I was present and there for my friend during the rest of her pregnancy. She understood that, she was heartbroken for me too. And even though it was hard at first when her daughter was born, it didn’t take long for a connection between me and that little girl to form. She lights up when she sees me and I genuinely look forward to spending time with her. Time doesn’t make you forget, but over time you do learn how to manage better. 🙏🏼🤍 Take it one step at a time, focus on the positive things you do have, and let them rescue you from the pit of sadness that forms when thinking of what’s missing. 🤍🪽

m

So sorry you went through that. Did you make sure your HCG levels went down before trying again? Sometimes it could be that it’s still in your system, since it hasn’t even been a month.

Line or not?

I don’t know if I’m just seeing things or not, I had a miscarriage back in march and don’t want to get my hopes up too much, also feel like the line should be darker at 10 dpo? Is there a line there?

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Last reply Sep 23, 2024

Da

Most definitely see a line momma. Just check in a couple of days to see line get darker. Wishing you a wonderful journey! 🫶🏽

Miscarriage

I had a miscarriage last monthI feel like my soul has been destroyed It’s a whole new level of trauma for meMy husband acts like I shouldn’t be grieving and should just face the situation at hand which is making it harder for me to cope.I feel like I’m dreaming I don’t know when and if I’ll ever feel normal againWhere is my baby nowI can’t stop thinking that they’re alone without me now I need a big hug from my baby who I never got to meet 😭If anyone has ever unfortunately experienced a miscarriage could you tell me how you coped ?Thank you in advance

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Last reply Nov 3, 2024

Be

Sending so much love to you. Im currently going through my second miscarriage so i know exactly how you are feeling and can tell you its completely normal and okay to feel this way. Just take it day by day. I promise you things will get easier a little step at a time. Your not alone. My inbox is always open if you wanted to chat xxx

Almost a year since M/C and age

Hello,It's been nearly one year since we had a m/c. I already have a son who I'm really grateful for. I always wanted a second child. I'm just starting to really lose hope that it will happen and not sure about how much longer I should even think about it. I'm 38 and almost 39.. I definitely don't want to try beyond 40 and worried that even 39 is pushing it. When I found out last year that I was pregnant I was so over the moon, it felt like the stars had aligned (things at my job went awry, I was demoted and felt really meh) but now I have started a new job so it would be more risky I feel like to be pregnant now, but if it's to happen it really has to be any time from bow. To this day I still don't know why it happened as it was at 8 weeks. Since then: nothing. I just don't know whether to give up or I feel like I'm sort of giving up already of hoping. My husband won't take vitamins and smokes (a few per day never in the house) and it isn't a priority for him. When I told him last year that I was pregnant I saw him shaking his head when he was in the corridor, after I had just told him and he thought I wouldn't see. At this time he was finishing a uni course (as a mature adult) and money was tight. He now has a new job and having a second child isn't top of his list, but he equally says he will try too. He is a very good dad. . Anyway, I am rambling but I just wonder if anyone else feels this way or has been thought it, or has any advice on moving forward- even what to ask the doctor to help. Thank you if you got this far x

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Last reply Sep 6, 2024

S

I’m in a similar situation. The clock is ticking I’ve been trying for 15 months 2 miscarriages in that time and another one from a few years back. It’s all starting to take its toll mentally and I feel like I’m almost ready to make peace and move on. I have a doctor’s appointment next month so I guess I’ll see what comes of that but I definitely don’t want to be trying for another whole year. It’s a really hard situation to be in. I’m very sorry for your loss. I hope there are good things heading your way!

Is this a ovulation

Is this an ovulation or is this still from my HCG level from miscarriage 8 days ago ?

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Last reply Sep 6, 2024

Gr

Yes the pregnancy test is the same in both pictures and I haven’t got my blood drawn. I go to the doctor Tuesday to make sure everything passed well.

Ovulating 2 weeks after chemical?

Is it normal to ovulate two weeks after a chemical? Got a positive pregnancy test on 8/11- started bleeding on 8/20 but only bled for 4 days? Pregnancy tests have been negative and hcg test was only a 13 on the 19th. Been tracking with OPKS since I stopped bleeding on 8/24- they have been negative until tonight at 1130pm I got a positive 1.42. Tested again at 220am just to see if it was darker and it was a 1.94!! So I’m definitely ovulating. We’ve been having sex since I stopped bleeding- drs said we could immediately start trying again. (I was only about 5 weeks) Praying we get pregnant again this month and it’s successful but I’m so nervous! 🙏🏻❤️

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Last reply Sep 26, 2024

Ma

Any update?

Spottingafter miscarriage

My miscarriage started july 4 with just spotting. The actual bleeding started few days afterwards. I never went to doctor to get blood levels tested but instead was told to just keep taking pregnancy tests weekly until i got a negative. Which i did and now ive been spotting for a week. Actually for about 2 weeks on and off but here lately the last week has been daily and brighter enough to wear a liner but not enough to do pads or tampons. Is this normal? I was 9 weeks 3 days when i officially miscarried.

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Last reply Sep 5, 2024

Ka

If you were 9 weeks & 4 days then you should have went and got blood tests done and followed your levels down to zero.

Anxious Mama HELP

Hi ladies, warning LONG POST AHEAD / MC? I believe I continue having Chemical pregnancies? im not sure what is going on. I had positive tests in January maybe 8-9DPO, all tests were positive and continued to darken and then got my period 3 days late. I then tested positive in July but not every test was positive only some. I am now 9DPO and got this! i think its too early for such a clear positive. im scared its chemical again or false positive or idk what but can anyone give me some advice if you’ve experienced this?

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Last reply Sep 5, 2024

Ka

Definitely positive! I would call your ob and get some blood work done. Have them check hcg and progesterone levels. Prayers!

Just started ttc after mc

Just looking for some hopeful stories! Last time I got preg it happened first try, anyone have luck the second time first try? Mc happened about 9 months ago and decided to take a break as it was really hard time for us. But anyways yeah just looking for some hopeful stories similar to mine🙂

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Last reply Sep 13, 2024

Ho

We’re trying again after our MC. We also got pregnant last time in the first try. Currently in my tww period! Hoping for a baby 🤞🏼

Testing during first cycle is FRUSTRATING

Because of course there’s a faint line. The faint line hasn’t fully disappeared even though it’s been over two months. It’s barely there. But I’m 8 DPO for the first cycle and I swear the line is darker. But this is why I tested early. I need to take pictures and save these to see serious line progression. Because that’s what will matter. It’s sadder because normally I’d be so happy with a faint line. But that means nothing now

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Last reply Sep 1, 2024

TTC after miscarriage

Hoping for words of positivity and hope here. I had a missed miscarriage in July at 9.5 weeks and have just finished my first period since. We will try to conceive this month and I just wondered how long it took others to ovulate/get pregnant after their miscarriage? Sending a big hug to everyone who has experienced the same 🤗🥰

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Last reply Sep 1, 2024

Er

I had an MMC at 8wks, it took us 5m to conceive once we started trying and now have a healthy 1.5 year old. You got this!!

33 days late

I finally have my doctors appointment next week to find out why I’m 33 days late for my period despite all my negative pregnancy tests. I feel very nervous about what they might tell me. I’m scared there’s something seriously wrong with me. I keep (falsely) hoping they’ll tell me there’s some rare reason my tests have been negative and I actually am pregnant. Obviously that’s just wishful thinking but it really would be nice. I just hope everything goes well and my period comes soon so we can keep trying🙏

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Last reply Sep 5, 2024

Lo

Keep us updated 🙏🏾

Questions

I had a miscarriage July 19th natural baby never deformed so there was literally no sign of pregnancy in me. I started my period August 24th it’s day 6 and I am just seeing blood pink when wiping no blood on the pad. Is this normal?? How long does your first period last after a miscarriage ?? How long does a normal period even last?? and after your first period when did you start trying for a baby and how many times did yall baby dance ???

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Last reply Aug 30, 2024

Ra

I feel this isn’t spoken about but my first 3 periods after MC were brutal then they settled back down. It took another 9 months to get pregnant again after that… Good luck, gal x

Miscarriage

Hi everyone I would really appreciate all your support at this difficult time . If there’s anyone on this app who’s ever experienced a miscarriage or recurring miscarriages could you please kindly share your experiences. I had a miscarriage at nearly 8 weeks and it’s left me wondering if something has happened to me in terms of fertility because my body wasn’t capable of keeping the baby . I refused a d&c because most of the tissue seems to be coming out with meds. Thank you so much in advance

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Last reply Aug 30, 2024

Ra

I had a missed MC last July at 5w and opted for medical MC rather than D&C. The majority of heaviness only last a few days but it did dribble on for about a month. I got my period back after 6 weeks and it took another 8 months to get pregnant after that. I am now 6 months with a little boy - perfectly healthy.A kind nurse put it to me that 1 MC is quite common but 2 in a row isn’t.Good luck, gal x

I’m scared and excited

I have a miscarriage back in April. We have been TTC for 4/5 years now. We have had multiple miscarriages but the last one really hit us hard. We just found out that I’m pregnant due may 2025 around my late mother’s birthdays. So extra sensitive and emotional, but also petrified and excited. I don’t really know what I’m looking for. Maybe words of encouragement, positive vibes I don’t know.

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Last reply Sep 7, 2024

Al

We lost this baby to. Feel a little numb at the moment

Miscarriage and periods

How soon after you miscarried did you have your period? I had a "period" at the beginning of the month that lasted about 2 weeks. Blood work had come back that I was pregnant during that time then it started dropping. Im curious if its normal to go a normal "cycle" length for the period to happen. This is my 1st miscarriage, had 1 live birth and hes now 12.

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Last reply Aug 29, 2024

m

I’m so sorry for your loss. For me 29 days after the muscarriage I got my first normal period again. Good luck!

Question ?!

My mind is playing tricks on me. I just need some vailidation until my appointment on 9/11 . 😅 I had a pregnancy of unknown location and took misaprostol on June 1st. But because of four previous losses, I’m making myself believe that this is just HCG left from that last pregnancy. But based off my last period I’m 5 weeks today. Am I crazy or dumb ?! 😫

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Last reply Aug 29, 2024

Getting a little darker

Lines are slowly getting darker! Go back for follow up blood work. First blood draw yesterday hcg was 34.1 and progesterone was 11.92…. Stick little bean! This is my rainbow after a chemical pregnancy in July

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Last reply Aug 29, 2024

As

Hope all goes well for you. 🙂

I’m being prescribed Progesterone! 🎉

My husband and I have been TTC for over 2.5 years and we had a miscarriage in April. Right before we had conceived we were referred to a fertility specialist, and after our loss we went in for our consultation and went on to find out that my insurance won’t cover anything fertility related and all our testing was going to be $3000+. I’d do anything to have a successful pregnancy, but I wasn’t happy about those numbers! Long story short, I decided to go a different route with testing- to break it off into pieces and focus on what I had theorized might be our issue and what might have been causing me severe PMS for years. When I got the message that I was being prescribed a medication for progesterone I cried tears of joy. After all this time, I feel like I am finally getting answers to my questions and like we are heading in the right direction for my overall health, and our fertility. I’m still emotional over it this morning! I hope everyone else in the struggle can experience this same sort of emotional relief soon! Our times will come! 💓🌈

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Last reply Sep 7, 2024

Me

I have had 4 miscarriages (3 missed, one spontaneous). In the UK they start treating you after 3 Reoccuring miscarriages. My tests all came back normal. But they prescribed me progesterone pessaries to try anyways. 200mg 2 times a day the week before my period was due, then 400mg twice a day after a positive test, first time trying we are now 8 weeks pregnant with a little jelly bean who has a strong heart beat and was wriggling away on the ultrasound yesterday. I had no real hope for it working so to say I was shocked after the first try is an understatement!! I hope it has the same outcome for you! The pessaries aren’t fun. You will need to wear a pad to catch the fall out. I’ve been told it’s much better to do them anally as these can be - but I’ve not brought myself to do it yet lol as things are working well as they are! But hope this is the start of a positive journey for you! X