Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I'm 24, a revert of almost six years alhamdulillah, I come all the way from Finland, I'm mixed (half Finnish and half Bulgarian, hate when people constantly ask me if I speak Finnish or where do I or my husband come from) and don't follow any culture. I've been married thrice (currently married for the third time, in a long distance marriage, our case is really interesting to say at least as Finland won't legalize our marriage and the process of him coming here could take years given the circumstances we're in, it's a loooong story) and I don't have kids. I never got pregnant although me and my ex husband never used any protection, I remember once having made a dua that I'd never get kids with him, and me and my current husband have agreed not to have kids for the next five years. I sometimes feel hurt by it or get cranky and feel like I have to save my ovaries but I do genuinely think that Allah subhaana wa ta'alaa knows I'm not suitable for becoming a mom. I can't take care of myself nor carry or hold newborn babies, they're really heavy for me. I can hold my cat like a baby who's like 8 lbs without a problem for at least five minutes straight but not a baby. I can't say no to kids, I always end up smiling at them and my words don't have any impact on my almost ten year old "little brother" (my friend's kid I'm very close with and consider him to be my little brother, we always play PlayStation together and he shared his secret with me)

To those thinking that reading some surah can help getting pregnant faster or would work out immediately etc, unless you or someone can back it up with an ayat (evidence) from the Quran, sunnah or ahadith (plural for " a hadith" in Arabic), shouldn't follow it and should always check the authenticity of everything and anything one hears and is told. Everything's in the hands of Allah subhaana wa ta'alaa. I hope no one has to go through someone asking "When are you getting married" or "Why don't you have any kids yet, is there a problem?".

I'd like to remind you sisters of the following verses

لِّلَّهِ مُلْكُ ٱلسَّمَٰوَٰتِ وَٱلْأَرْضِ ۚ يَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَآءُ ۚ يَهَبُ لِمَن يَشَآءُ إِنَٰثًا وَيَهَبُ لِمَن يَشَآءُ ٱلذُّكُورَ أَوْ يُزَوِّجُهُمْ ذُكْرَانًا وَإِنَٰثًا ۖ وَيَجْعَلُ مَن يَشَآءُ عَقِيمًا ۚ إِنَّهُۥ عَلِيمٌ قَدِيرٌ.

Allah has control of the heavens and the earth; He creates whatever He will– He grants female offspring to whoever He will, male to whoever He will, or both male and female, and He makes whoever He will barren: He is all knowing and all powerful. (42:49-50)

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