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Don't think so

Just don't think this cycle is it. My temps just look so low even on Progesterone. It sucks thinking this way, but I just can't help it this cycle. I wish I had it in me to feel hope.

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Last reply Oct 6, 2022

so discouraged and disappointed ☹️

Infertility issues are no fun. I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks in May. We have been trying since then & no luck. Currently 2 days away from AF & negative tests. The pregnancy a few months ago, I received a faint but obvious positive at just 8 dpo. I do have PCOS but my cycles are regular & I recently had some labs done for a PCOS workup & they were all good. I think I’m just not ovulating. If you made it this far, thank you for reading. Just wanted to vent. ☹️

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Last reply Oct 5, 2022

I’m broken

Hi, i am a 21 year old that has lost her sex drive and I feel like i’m broken. I have trauma from the past thag I think might influence that, but it’s affecting my relationship and I feel so guilty. I just need a hug

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Last reply Sep 29, 2022

Lots on my mind

Not sure what to do any more this is my second ectopic. Just when I stated to be ok with not having kids. I just want to have a healthy full term baby I don't care if it's a girl or boy. They say to lose weight get healthy but I got pregnant at my biggest 320 and i got pregnant at current weight 260 I got pregnant but at my lowest I was 220 and it wasn't until I gain weight to get pregnant. Tried alot of stuff still didn't work preseed, sex ovation week, tracking my most fertile days,Mucinex pills a old ob told be to keep taking prenatal vitamins. Not sure what else to do.

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Last reply Sep 24, 2022

I’m annoyed

Why! Every month I spot several days before AF (right around when I have had implantation bleeding in the past) and even though I KNOW that I spot before my period, I STILL hope it’s implantation bleeding. Why?! Why do I do this to myself?! Ugh. Plus, periods are the literal worst. Can you tell I’m about to start mine? #pms

I’m annoyed
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Last reply Sep 20, 2022

LK

Have you had your progesterone levels checked lately? Spotting an number of days before a period could mean low progesterone

Why isn’t getting pregnant as easy as they tell you it is when you’re young?

The frustration just keeps building and building. I try to always stay positive and look at the bright side of things, but after 3+ years TTC naturally and 2 IUIs (one resulting in a MC and the other unsuccessful period) I’m at my wits end!! I keep trying to figure out how I go from a chance of conceiving TWINS, to not even a singleton? I don’t understand. I’m in perfect reproductive health, healthier than most women in my age group, and this is still so effing hard!! My fiancé is also fine reproductively. Growing up, it was always emphasized that “it only takes ONE TIME to get pregnant”. We’re good deserving people. It frustrates me when I see all kinds of drug addicts and undeserving people with children/ pregnant. Why them and not us? I’m so unbelievably over one disappointment after the next!! When will it be OUR time? My heart breaks seeing the disappointment and sadness on the face of the man I love. It breaks my heart wondering why my body isn’t doing what it’s supposed to. It breaks my heart to continue to yearn for something that’s starting to feel intangible. Ugh!!! Who can relate???

Why isn’t getting pregnant as easy as they tell you it is when you’re young?
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Last reply Mar 30, 2023

ka

Honestly one thing that has helped me is don’t compare yourself to those “undeserving people” I used to do the same but at the end of the day it’s about the fact that those children were meant to be born. These babies that we want so bad will eventually grow up to be there own person, essentially they’re not necessarily “for us”. I’ve been ttc 5 years so ik how hard it is I just keep telling myself God will make it happen when my baby is meant to come… it’s so hard though 😩 wishing us both the best

Our story

I don't know who needs to hear this but I know it would have helped me the past three years so I posting it hereI been apart of this app and this group for years. Praying and hoping for a child and each month it wouldn't happen. In August 2021 after years of trying and losing hope my husband and I found out we were pregnant and in on March 28th 2022 became the best day of our lives when my daughter Anna who we waited so long for finally arrived. After everything I went through to become a mother I felt I had to turn that pain in purpose, being a believer that everything happens for a reason I believe my husband and I went through all the pain of infertility to help other who also face it. For that reason we have how start a family channel on YouTube about parenthood, motherhood, marriage and infertility. One of the reasons being to spread education and hope about our journey and infertility in general. I know a lot of you are struggling just as I was. I only just started the channel but last week I posted a story time of our infertility journey I'm posting the link here for anyone interested https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zVibMMv4GCEPlease let's support each other. If you are someone struggling with infertility who know someone who is please share with them. I know hearing other people story of hope faith and even the struggling helped me not feel so alone and hold on to hope on some of my hardest days and by starting the channel I am just trying to pave that forward. Thank you all for being there when I needed you most and the rest of the world just could not understand. I am forever grateful for you all and forever blessed with the brith of my daughter who is now almost 6 months old. I hope that with our story we can help inspire and support others...I will be praying for you allMay everyone feeling the pain I once felt be blessed with a baby. Anyone who needs extra support also feel free to private message me. Thanks for listening

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Last reply Sep 19, 2022

Sick of ttc

Been ttc for so long with no luck. One more month negative. Also I don’t understand why it’s so hard to get a fertility appointment. I had one scheduled last month but they changed it last minute and wasn’t able to go. Now I’m rescheduling and no one is available until the end of the year. I am so sick of waiting ☹️

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Last reply Sep 18, 2022

Je

I am so sorry and I feel your frustration. Been TTC a year and a half and got a lot of answers, did everything we could to improve our chances and still just waiting for our luck to change. I’m in a total funk now thinking it’s not meant to be and telling myself to just quit with everything. The OPKs, the planning, etc,

Everything is getting to me!!!

So let me say this, I’ve been trying since 2018 and I still don’t have a baby, I’ve miscarried twice… I’ve just been trying and have not been successful… Yet my cousin has been pregnant every year since I’ve started my ttc journey… This girl that I work with just found out she was pregnant… My ex and the chick he cheated on me with just had a baby! My 15 year old little cousin just found out she was pregnant!!! Like everyone around me is getting pregnant, like I’m trying to be patient, I’m trying to not be jealous but this shit is hard! I honestly want to give up!!!

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Last reply Oct 3, 2022

Kw

Same I felt this real bad finally got pregnant n it only lasted 6 weeks … had a d&c in January … after trying since 2018 … everybody from ppl who don’t deserve them to ppl that is not even trying is having them n I’m married inlove n it’s not happening… like wat is goin on … I really felt this so I had to comment …. Stay strong tho as I’m trying to do the same 😓❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

Discouraged

I’m sooo lost and helpless.. with this trying to conceive baby #2… it’s stressing me tf out to be honest…I’ve been to the doctors nothing wrong, my hubby has no kids and no problems… my kid now is 9 yo and she wants one too.. lol(instead of crying) I’ve tried…. I’m exhausted,I’m jealous, I’m hurt and over it ☹️😩😢😖

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Last reply Sep 19, 2022

Me

I totally understand what your going through. Have been trying for what seems like forever now for baby #2. Wanting to give my daughter whose 12 a sibling and my husband his first. It’s so freaking frustrating. But none the less I’m remain hopeful and positive.

Labs came back 😭😭😭😭 TTC nightmare

I finally decided to switch doctors and have him listen to my concerns. Been trying to conceive the past 2 years and nothing, I get my period around the same time except I had 2 abnormal periods within my last 6 -7 cycles. My last cycle was August 21st and lasted 6 days. So I go to the doctor he first checks my progesterone on sept 9th and tested at 8:38 that morning, I get my results today and it says I didn’t ovulate so now I have to do labs on my ovarian reserve and thyroid. I lost it and burst to tears because I’m like that automatically counts me out and now I’m just waiting on my period to show up to call and schedule for them to do the “dye test” 😣 I’ve just lost all hope that I will be blessed with my second child. Has anyone been in the same position and still end up pregnant? I currently have been feeling light cramping and sore breast and random body breakouts and I am supposed to start on sept 21st. Somebody help me😩😩😩

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Last reply Sep 14, 2022

Ce

I can’t relate just wanted to say I’m so sorry . Praying you get concrete answers and are able to conceive that precious child.

Why can’t it be me?!

My friends are always coming to me talking about they hate their boyfriends but end up getting pregnant with them multiple times or they are having their first baby with the person they proclaim to hate!!! Then there’s me I’ve been trying for 8 months since my miscarriage ovulate right on time every month!! and my cycles are regular and NOTHING F*CKING NOTHING what is it do I have to hate my boyfriend too why can’t I just conceive a baby that’s all I want right now in this moment yes my boyfriend irritates me sometimes but that’s normal couple stuff but they call their boyfriends every name but their birth names and they are fertile myrtle!! like why not me 😞😭

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Last reply Sep 18, 2022

Je

Ugh I hear you!! Both me and my husband have 2 kids from previous relationships with people we did NOT want to have children with but now that we’re happily married and TRYING we can’t. So sickening.

2 WEEKS LATE NEGATIVE PREGNANCY TEST

I am so confused I am a husband I've been trying for 7 years to get pregnant. This last cycle I missed a totally. My life cycle was July 29th and my next cycle do was August 29th. I have not had a cycle of yet tomorrow will Mark 2 weeks past the time I was to have cycled. I have taken two pregnancy test and they both are saying negative I am not pregnant. My body feels different and I'm starting to have headaches and nausea. I don't know what to do my next cycle is due 30th of this month. Any thoughts, and yes I have made my OBGYN aware.

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Last reply Sep 11, 2022

Al

Periods can be late for many many reasons.Have you ever tracked ovulation with opks and/or bbt? Have you only ever used an app?

Ttc stress

I have a very high stress demanding job (I’m a wedding planner/ coordinator) My husband and I have been ttc for 6 cycles this will be 7.After this past cycle; my husbands car got stolen (dealing with insurance, police, a tow company that towed it didn’t report to the police that they found it after the police report was filed), I’ve been working crazy hours ( I’m on hour 55 with still another event left for the weekend). I’m exhausted, not in the mood- I’ve been really good about taking bbt temps, doing ovulation tests, taking a prenatal and im on CD11 and I have no interest in doing anything this month- I’ve been really numb since last cycle and the stress has been overwhelming and I’m completely exhausted and burnt out.How do you push through? There is nothing more that I want but to have a baby and start a family with my husband but I’m so bleh and I don’t even care that I haven’t been testing

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Last reply Sep 11, 2022

Long Irregular Cycles

I have a 17 month old daughter, we conceived her relatively quickly after stopping oral BC. This surprised me because I’d always had irregular periods since I was 13. I got my first postpartum period in December 2021 and my cycles since then have been anywhere from 31-60 days. We’re wanting to have another baby and have been trying since March, with zero success. It has been incredibly frustrating and disheartening having such long irregular cycles because I have no idea when I ovulate (if I even ovulate) and when my period will be. I’m currently on CD 42 and all BFNs so far. I’m beginning to feel discouraged and just wish AF would arrive so I can start a new cycle. I had bloodwork done last month and my doctor doesn’t feel that I have PCOS or any hormone imbalance. I did get diagnosed with mild adenomyosis due to a small 2mm cyst found in my uterus. I’m looking for some hope from someone else that has irregular cycles! Thank you ladies and baby dust to you all ♥️

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Last reply Sep 10, 2022

La

And also, are you using OPKs and charting BBT?

I just want to scream I'm so confused, hurt, frustrated PLEASE HELP!!!!!

So, last summer I found out I have HPV. Hindu to a really horrible set of events I had a doctor that broke HIPAA and blasted my information across my cell phone through a text, without my consent, after my annual. I didn't even know I had HPV. I happened to be a business manager of multiple businesses (gas stations and restaurants) in a smallish rocky mountain valley town where news spreads like the wildfire. Well, one of my employees saw the messages come across my phone. You can imagine the nightmare it turned into! I have not been able to go to the doctor since because of PTSD due to this incident along with being completely broke homeless and also covid requiring masks be worn in offices like that or you are required to get a vaccine. I unfortunately have extremely bad PTSD among other issues including bipolar manic depression anxiety carpal tunnel there's some issues but because of that I can't wear a mask so I have not been able to see a doctor since covid began! Due to all of this I lost my job, my home, and my life has honestly been a complete shit show ever since! (please excuse the language) then I lost my Medicaid and my food stamps I was forced to move to Idaho I have not found any better luck anywhere with getting a job or even finding a place to live that isn't filled with rats or roaches that doesn't cost me my fiance's entire weekly paycheck we lost our car it literally got repossessed two nights ago because the hotel that we live at cost $575 a week it's just ridiculous can't find housing here because we don't have previous rental history here and we don't live anywhere near a grocery store so we're stuck living off of gas station food because I among all my other medical issues I have allergies to damn near everything in the world at least it feels that way to me! But two of my main allergies that scare me more than life are all different types of mold along with stress and I have a severe allergy to heat and humidity combined I get hives rashes I start running a fever I black out it's not good at all. And the icing on the cake is who in the hell, again please excuse the language, ever knew that Idaho sits anywhere from 102° all the way to 120° from the end of May still all the way through you know almost mid September along with 23% to 68% humidity! And now having my vehicle repossessed my life turned upside down everything that's happened with me, I wanted to attempt to get disability because every job I do get it's so hard for me to work with two failed carpal tunnel surgeries my arms go numb I hardly sleep I have constant night tears panic attacks it's all bad I don't really see any good in my life I haven't other than maybe a handful of sudden fleeting occasions in my life I was not dealt a good hand in life but with everything going on I can't even try to get disability now so I'm just a burden on my fiance and I don't know what to do anymore! I am literally just beyond miserable I can't go anywhere I can't do anything I have no vehicle I have no money I have no job I have no friends I have no family I have no food it is literally just me and my fiance and my hound dog who is also my service dog in this piece of s*** run down crack den of a motel that's filled with mice and spiders and bugs it has a POS so-called A/C and no heater either. The room is barely bigger than a jail cell the bathroom is two and a half feet by a foot and a half I can't even turn around in there or shaving there and I'm not a little girl mind you I weigh like a hair over 200 lb I basically have to shower hanging out of the shower. Okay now that may partial ranting is over to my main point I don't know what kind of HPV I have I have not had a biopsy I don't trust doctors anymore after everything they have done to me and how horribly they have treated me plus I can't find a health clinic that'll see me free of charge around here it's a minimum of $50 down anywhere you go and that's just to walk in the door that doesn't include an exam and a biopsy and everything else that goes with it and to top it off there's no doctors around me I have no way to get there and my fiance has a sex drive higher than anyone I've ever met and he's also a p*** addict which just destroys me psychologically and emotionally on a daily basis long story short he can't be a respectful compassionate ADULT and keep it in his f****** pants and not go watch f****** p*** and jack off to other women for a week and a half while I recover... All of that right there that cussing that hatred you know comes from the fact that I've been abused my entire life by everybody around me used and abused I've been the scapegoat and all I do is give my shirt off my back to people they do anything and everything I can to help them and make sure they are doing good in there happy but I can't even get some respect I don't like p*** I don't like my fiance watching it due to things that have happened to me in the past and weigh very heavily on me and my daily life. I had emergency surgery on my birthday 4 years ago and had my left ovary and left tube removed because I was raped and contracted gonorrhea and did not know I did and I got an abscess and I almost died I was in septic shock when I went into what I thought was get some UTI meds cuz I thought I had a UTI or a kidney infection. I feel like I was put on this planet literally my purpose in life is to be a wife and mother and raise a family and then I have that surgery and then I find out I have HPV. I did have the first 2 of 3 HPV vaccines when I was a teenager. My fiance and I have been trying to get pregnant since I was 25 and I tried with the guy I was with before that from 18 to 25. I've had four miscarriages my periods are extremely regular I eat healthy for the most part you know 98% of the time or so. I have been clean and sober for 4 years now last time I did go to the doctor before my annual I had blood work and everything done and everything was pretty normal. So I don't know if I'll ever be able to have children. S*** I don't even know if I'll be alive next year cuz I don't know if this is the cancer causing HPV. I could really use some advice some ideas just anything please help I'm literally begging anyone that could possibly help in any way shape or form. I'm at my wit's end.-Addy B

I just want to scream I'm so confused, hurt, frustrated PLEASE HELP!!!!!
I just want to scream I'm so confused, hurt, frustrated PLEASE HELP!!!!!

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Last reply Sep 10, 2022

NW

I'm so sorry! I'm already praying for you as I write. 🙏 I wish I could give you some help but I'm in Canada

Positive ovulation test

So I am ttc , this week I have gotten high .. not peak .. results on my clear blue advanced digital for 4 days now but I have not gotten my peak yet , is that normal ?

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Last reply Sep 8, 2022

How’s everyone ?

This month has only had 7 days and I feel like it’s been the longest month of my life! Just stress and anxiety plus a ED visit for a terrible migraine and I lost 4 lbs from constantly throwing up from said migraine! So how’s everyone else doing? I don’t know if I’m the only one that has had a crappy first week of September or if this is just the start of our fallish season? I can’t even fathom even thinking about conception and it’s only been 7 days lol 😂 sending baby dust to everyone !!

How’s everyone ?
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Last reply Oct 6, 2023

Br

Girl I’m currently in my TWW after IUI #2. I’m trying to remain cool, calm, and collected but it feels like the 18th is SOOO FAR AWAY!! And to add more excitment and nerves to the mix, we have a high liklihood of twins!!! We’ve been praying for twins for years and it might finally become our reality!!!-I know it’s easier said than done, but try to focus on the positives despite a bumpy start to your month. Mine has been too. My IUI was Sunday and I found out I was exposed to Covid so trust me I know it’s hard. But stay positive!! If you even need someone to talk to, I’m here to lift you up!!! Loads of baby dust to you!! 🧚🏻‍♀️💫✨

Cramping at 8 dpo

I’m having on and off mild cramping it’s disheartening to see others around me getting pregnant could this be my cycle? starting to think I can’t get pregnant anymore due to my miscarriage 9 months ago 😞 I’m tired of my friend talking to me about her pregnancy not in a rude way but she knows what I’ve been through it’s like everything she wants to talk about now is her baby I have one already but the one that miscarried would’ve been my 2nd.I’m tired of helping people with baby stuff and no one was there for me when I needed them but wants to basically force me and say rude things because that’s all I wanted

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Last reply Sep 6, 2022

Please help me share this..

Please help me share as i’m trying not to get evicted with an 8th month old. I’ve shared on all my social media sites and not close with family so couldn’t help but to share here as well https://gofund.me/997195cc

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Last reply Sep 3, 2022

ar

sorry you can’t solicit here