Hurtful comment

My husband has definitely sajd really hurtful things to me in the past but yesterday when i got home from work our 17 months old was crying and i was trying to keep him down. My husband told me to give him our son because i am not good with him. When i said did you just say i am not good with our son, he said no you'renot. My husband and i had so many issues but this is a new level of low. I do everything for our son. Am i overreacting?

What surname??

I am getting married next May. I would like to keep my surname until we decide to have children. Is that possible? If so do I still need to get into contact with everyone to change my title to MRS. TIA

Rant time

Rant time Just looking to get opinions on this . I was pregnant with mine and my husbands fourth kid & my husband's sister has a boyfriend who meows like a cat and was accused of assaulting people so I didn’t want my kids around him. When I expressed my concerns, my husband's mom walked into my home and freaked out on me over it and he did nothing. Around Easter, his dad walked into my yard and freaked out about me being in their business. Mind you this went on for months. Then after I gave birth and in the hospital I wasn’t ready to see them and was still upset over this matter and how I’ve been treated, my husband invites all of them up anyways and made it seem as my feelings were irrelevant and he didn’t want to make his dad mad.. His dad ended up messaging me talking about I know your mad but he’d like to know my eldest child’s sport schedule.. after I sent it and said it wasn’t his place to be involved in one of our arguments he then “apologized “ Then a few days later Something had fallen out of his pocket while we were watching a movie at night and he hurried up and pushed it under the couch while hovering over me making sure I wouldn’t look. Couple days after that, I found some in his pants pocket asked him about them. They were snuff pouches and he said he just got them etc but later confessed to what was under the couch being the same. So he has hidden it from me for months. He knows how I feel about drugs, nicotine etc it’s a big no for me. It’s been lie after lie with multiple things.Then he asked me about his dad co-signing on a home for us (since I’m a sahm) I told him no I’d rather him not have anything to do with it. After me telling him no I then found out he went behind my back and continued with the bank etc. when confronted, he continued to lie until I said I knew but he always has excuses. He can’t just ever put the truth first.

Husband hand painted this 🤍👩🏼‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏽🎨

Plan B

Anyone know how long you can wait to take a plan B? if he came inside me yesterday and my ovulation time just started yesterday .. can I take it after 3 days and still be okay?

Feeling lonely

Does anyone else gave this issue? My husband doesn't show any kind of physical affection unless we're being intimate, we usually sit on separate couches bc of the way our living room is set up, which is fine. But from time to time i wanna lay on the couch with him and cuddle, well anytime i suggest it hes like " you can " or " i dont wanna get hot " he doesnt say it mean or anything but it just hurts my feelings bc im wanting to cuddle and be a little close and hes not wanting to, hes a gret husband and we love eachother but i know he doesnt need/want/ like physical touch bc he just doesnt like to be touched, byt shouldnt it be differentfor your spouses? I love that feeling, makes me feel comforted and close. But when he says "if you want to" it doesnt make me want to and immediately changes my whole attitude, i just dont know what to do. I try to respect him when it comes to that bc i dont want to force him into changing who he is, i just want more physical touch. Thoughts?

I’m going to miss my husband so much…

I’m going away bcs of my work as a care assistant for 1-3 weeks. 6 hours drive away from where we live. It will be hard but we will video chat everyday whenever I’ve stopped working and we have good network in my country, I will just mainly miss the physical stuff. We also just started living together again this summer when he finally got residence permit. So at least it will be easier than when he was away for 5 years in his country and with bad network. 3 weeks is nothing compared to that. I’ll just have to remind myself of that. I’ll probably cry the first night without him, since before this summer.

My husband took my sister out to dinner!

Hello, hear me out & tell me if I’m overreacting. My husband & my lil sis have been communicating via text & social media for few years. He even go as far as lurking her pages on what she does or who she dates. He is so generous that he sends her money multiples times via Venmo & put a “❤️🌸” while sending the money without my consent. One time she even asked me to tell my husband to stop texting her. I told him multiple times to leave her alone, because it is making him look creepy. He said he is just trying to help her & I can’t dictate what he should do. Ok fast forward, he recently took her out to dinner & lied to me that he was going out with his colleague. He told her not to tell me about it. He has just been acting suspicious & I don’t know what’s the issue. Now I told him that I don’t trust him & he is upset. He said I’m delusional & insecure, why would I disrespect him in that way. Why would I think he will ever cheat on me with my sis. He said she’s like a lil sister to him & he helps whomever God send his way. Now he is making himself a victim & I’m the delusional, insecure, & crazy. I don’t know how he expect me to feel by lying to me. Please your advice & thoughts would be greatly appreciated. I love my husband & have been with him for way too long to loose him over this bs.

Advice

(Posting anonymously due to having family and friends in this group)I need advice. My partner, he’s got a great heart but I have 2 very big problems with him right now. 1. He’s extremely obnoxious and 2.runs his mouth constantly even about things he has no business knowing and is wrong about. Some examples: over exaggerated laughter when everyone else is done laughing, running his mouth at inappropriate times. And he doesn’t handle correction well especially from me. Etc. It’s honestly really embarrassing to me. I’ve had the conversation with him before and he doesn’t even know the definition of the word obnoxious. Some of this comes from his background, but it is pushing me and others around him away. I’m at a loss, because I love him, and if we could just get over this “hump” he can be such an enjoyable person to be around. I’m aggravated because even some of my family member close to me have experienced and expressed to me their feelings about it. (respectfully, of course.) I feel like some of it will come with him growing up some, but then I fear that maybe he won’t. A family member of mine made the comment that they aren’t sure that he will grow out of it. I don’t know how to address it because anytime I bring something like that up when I’ve had enough, his response is “IDK where this is coming from I haven’t even done anything.” It’s wearing me out. He’s not like this around his family, but around any of my family and friends he is. I don’t know how else to tell him other than flat out hurting his feelings which I have done before out of desperation for him to “man up” and quit his bull crap. His emotions are always in the drivers seat, and I’m just fed up. I need to know how to go about us solving this and how to get through to him. I don’t talk with my family about these things because I just think that can get messy really fast. When we end up talking about these things sometimes it ends in a fight and him leaving my home slamming the door and yelling on the way out to his car. Ladies, have any of you ever dealt with this? How do I approach this? Im not giving up on him, but Im out of ideas an techniques, and words. We are a younger couple. I’m sick of being humiliated and when I quietly correct him (nicely) he runs his mouth and makes a scene. Advice? His good far outweighs his bad, but NO one likes an obnoxious man. I will not be the partner that sits back and acts like it’s cute because it is NOT. Any advice welcome, please be kind while I’m navigating through this. Relationships are hard and I know that we could be having way bigger problems than this, but I’m at my wits end with this behavior. 💔

Second child

Hello ladies!How did you all decide it was time for a second child? I’m 30 and my son is almost 6 years old. We have been thinking about another child but I don’t have the courage to quit contraception and scared of going through the same pregnancy complications again. Thanks

Periods late!

Hey! Just looking for some comfort and advice I guess. I’m too anxious to test yet lmao. My cycle usually ranges from 29-40 days, but rarely ever goes over 35 days. Like.. only once has it been all the way to 40. I’m currently on day 37! 4 days late! I know the app is just a guess but I’m worked up over it. We would be fine with either answer, I just don’t think I’m ready to cope with a potential positive test. My husband really wants to be a dad though! I’m thinking it could just be a change of environment.. did that happen to any of you? The last month I’ve moved out of my childhood home, went on a 2 week vacation, switched jobs, lost friends etc. it’s been a whirlwind for sure. Could this be a cause of a late period? Or am I crazy and need to test asap?Not experiencing my typical pms symptoms. I usually am super uncomfortable and bloated, no energy or anything. I have an acne breakout so that’s kinda a symptom. Been pooping frequently. Thoughts??

Define Young

What's the age range for this group? Trying to decide if I am too old! TIA

Commitment Ceremony Ideas

Hello, Me and my fiancé just got engaged but we decided to do a commitment ceremony since we’re still in school and recently found out that legal marriage would affect our financial aid statuses. There’s an option for a commitment ceremony in Vegas, but I was wondering if any other brides out there could give me different links for commitment ceremonies in different places. Commitment ceremonies aren’t a huge thing on Google 😬 We’re not sure where we want to get “married” and I’m going dress shopping in a few weeks. And the dress is important when deciding the destination!Help a future bride out 👰‍♀️ Thanks!

Anxiety over spouse’s homecoming

I’m experiencing some major anxiety over my husbands return from deployment in the near future..I’ve seriously started to make a life for myself independently, and I’m afraid of how that will change when he gets back. There were so many messes that I’ve had to clean up immediately after he left, which were a result of his neglect from months beforehand. Things he would never let me deal with, but he on the other hand wouldn’t deal with them either. And these were things I’d begged him to take care of months before… that and I was nearly left with no working car. I had to have family drive for hours to me to help out. So after initially feeling like a mess after his departure, I eventually found a healthy balanced life for myself. That was something I struggled to find when he was here. I was the only one who ever made an effort to keep things functional at home, so it’s been like a healing process for myself since I’ve finally found strength in my independence. I’m just scared of losing it. I moved straight from my family to marriage, so I’ve never had a real chance to know who I am on my own. I don’t think I have it in me to once again take care of myself and someone who never kept up with things like they should’ve. And this is someone who’s never helped cook a dinner, do dishes, fold the laundry or take out the trash. I just don’t have it in me to compromise my life like that anymore. The mental load it requires to play “mother” in a marriage is draining. To the point where I don’t even feel like myself anymore. The scary part is it got to a point where I didn’t know any different for a while, and it felt normal. Until I finally got the mental space when he left. I can’t even stand the thought of sex. I don’t want to be touched or give something I know will be expected once the dust settles after his return. I’ve been enjoying my physical independence. To be clear, he’s not on a combat deployment. I don’t want him to be in harms way, and of course I want the best for him. I just don’t feel the same way about our marriage anymore.

Nikkah Response

Hello my name Is Mariyam I am 22 yea old I come form a Muslim indian family and my concern is that I don’t want my fiancé family don’t want to rejcet me cause i reaaly nedd his love and physical affection and as musiim we got to meet after marriage I can’t wait tho cause it’s been few months already we just need his parent’s response and yea I want to have conversations with him in private cause j can’t hold this cause I am on vacation for 3 month in india just need there respond cauee I feel so worried and yes my mom thibk I nedd it learn cooking I told wht many time I will learn how to cook and make food and that my goal but she keeps saying that make me feel rejected but she thinks I am taking to wrong cause she knows that we need his parents respond to and see what they can do I am sure 100% accept me cauee his mother was saying to do Nikkah with me butI am on vacation and we got to discuss this cause personally I need that affection badly and I can’t take this feeling I hate being digitalized we want to meet again and forever and do our nikkah I got the ring tho too at home and of course we want to be with each other for the rest of life forever I would never break his heart and never hurt him cause we promised each other I don’t want others to make me feel hurt

Husband Taking The Baby

So me and my husband are going through a really hard time right now, and the other night we decided to separate. My baby is going to be 2 months on the 16th and he want to take her for a whole weekend (picker her up Friday at 5pm and drop her off Sunday at 5pm). I’ve tried explaining to him that I’m not ready to leave her, especially over night, and she isn’t ready either. But he doesn’t care. He also never wakes up to her crying and he isn’t aware of his surroundings while he sleeps. I’m so stressed and anxious about the whole thing that I feel like I’m going to vomit and I can’t stop shaking. I’m wondering if any of you know the Arizona laws when it comes to things like this, or if you know of any research studies on a baby and what happens when they are separated from the mother, or something similar. The only way he might listen to me is if I can prove that I’m not talking out of my ass and it’s a proven fact by a doctor of some sort. Please, I need help. I feel like I’m going crazy and having a mental breakdown… also prayers would be nice right now.

Help!!

So my husband is a bigger guy and we are having problems with jeans. The ones he has now fit everywhere except for the crotch🤦‍♀️ they are tight! He has a bubble butt and im not sure how to make the jeans look right. His straights fit like skinny jeans bc he has larger thighs and calves. He hates boot cut jeans. Idk what to try so that they dont look huge and baggy.

Do all men cheat

I’m looking and reading and every woman on here has been cheated on and I don’t understand that why cheat just go be single then what pleasure do guys get from cheating

I went through with it

About a month and a half ago i made a post about if i should divorce my husband. And i decided to go through with it. Our divorce date is on the 22nd of this month and I am so glad I didn’t decide to stay with him. The past month has been absolutely horrific, with him constantly calling me a bitch and so many horrible names and yelling at me constantly. I finally told him I had nothing to say to him and that I don’t want to talk to him or touch him. Since that day it has been a little over a week of not seeing him and it is so refreshing that he is finally leaving me alone. I don’t feel guilty at all and I am glad I was firm in my decision to leave the relationship. I am moving towns at the end of the month and starting a new job and I couldn’t be happier. I just needed to tell someone so if you read all of this thank you for that.

Advice?

Is it just me or is it weird for husbands to call you handsome . I kinda take defense it because I’m not a male . He always calls me handsome instead of “beautiful” “cute” , etc.,