Salam everyone I hope you are all well Alhamdulillah and In sha Allah. I’m 27 years of age and I met this person (30m) who has previously been married and is now divorced. He has been married for approximately 3 years and issues arises between them within the first of marriage and was separated mid to end of second year of marriage.

I’ve been talking to this person for 4 weeks alhamdullilah and he makes me happy, we both want family involvement early and both want the wedding early. However, this will be my first marriage and my dad has already disagreed and isn’t willing to discuss or talk to his family. He has already labelled him as nothing just because he has been married before. The name divorced has already tarnished his view of him and he hasn’t even asked what caused his marriage to break down or even wants to know what he’s like as a person. His view of him or anyone who is divorced is horrible. The judgment he made really made me upset and I can’t sleep because of it. My dad is divorced from my mum and he has since been remarried. His wife also thinks the same and instantly was rude about him being divorced. But I’m stuck now because my dad isn’t willing to change his opinion and he thinks by saying he’s divorced is enough to say no without giving an explanation. He views a divorcee as someone who isn’t worth anything and isn’t an individual. He constantly says I can do better and the better is someone who isn’t divorced but holds the same values as this person im talking to I.e, education, secure job, in good career, earns a lot etc. even when I discuss other potentials I’ve spoken to and how some have had previous relationships and performed things that married couples do - he still believes there’s better with someone who isn’t divorced when large majority are not what he thinks they are.

my mum however is supportive of me and is willing to have communications with his family. Knowing the character I am and the person I am my mum trusts I wouldn’t bring someone forward who isn’t a genuine kind hearted person.

I don’t know what I should do in this situation, even if my mum talks to them and she likes them and wants to progress things my dad would probably not want to be involved which would mean he wouldn’t talk to me. Our relationship will break down then.

Has anyone been in this situation before?

Glow Muslim