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Did I cum?

I know this sounds stupid but hear me out.So, I masturbate w a vibrator often. Usually I do it to feel good for a bit and then stop, as I never reach a climax really. However this time, I was sexting and I was REALLY into it, more than ever. All of a sudden, I start to feel this liquid come out of me. It wasn’t like “oh I’m gonna cum!!!” It just rushed out. Afterwards, I felt a bit shaky and sooo euphoric (not usually the case). However, my bed wasn’t too wet or anything crazy as to give proof that I came. I’m just confused as I don’t normally seem to cum and I seem to have trouble climaxing, so I’m kinda doubting it naturally but can this be what it feels/looks like to cum?

Last reply Dec 15, 2023

The term “cum” for a woman is a slang term from orgasm, or climax, as you described it. There are a number of fluids that a woman can release during sexual stimulation and orgasm, but that is not required for an orgasm. Some women release fluid during arousal, or penetration, or orgasm, or somewhere in between.An orgasm is the release of tension and stress that built up in your body during stimulation. This happens in waves of contractions and pleasure starting at your clitoris or uterus and rippling outwards This last several seconds and may be accompanied by heat generated in your uterus and spreading outwards. After an orgasm you should feel relaxed, satisfies, healthy, and happy. You may feel glowing and/or sleepy.Of course, orgasms can differ in intensity from a slight ripple to a massive earthquake. Every woman is able and entitled to orgasms. If you do not orgasm, it means that you just did not discover the way your body likes to be stimulated or the mindset to allow you to just give over to the sensations and orgasm.I see from your history that you were raped by a date. If you did not get help to process this traumatic event, it will affect you. You may not think so, but it does. Very few women and men can deal with rape without getting help to process it, Leaving it unresolved can lead to intimacy issues, hypo-sexuality, or hyper-sexuality, and arousal/orgasm issues without you even knowing what caused the issues..With that out of the way, let’s talk about how a woman reaches orgasm. You do not say if you use an internal vibrator or a clitoral vibrator. Your primary pleasure organ is your clitoris, not your vagina. Your vagina is mostly there for making and delivering babies. It is not very sensitive, except around the opening. Your clitoris on the other hand is blessed with over 10,000 nerve endings, making it the most sensitive organ anywhere in the human body. It is a lot like a male penis and is formed from the same tissue. You do not pee or ejaculate through your clitoris, and while the penis is largely outside a man’s body, the biggest part of your clitoris is inside your body in two wishbone like structures called the bulbs and the legs.So most of your actions should be concentrated on or around your clitoris, and a bit around your vaginal opening and your inner lips. However, some women like to feel that filled up feeling and have their vagina contract against something when they orgasm. So putting something inside your vagina while you masturbate around your clitoris can help you improve your orgasms.There must be at least a thousand different ways you can stimulate your clitoris. You have to experiment and figure it out yourself. It is also unusual to use just one way. It is more typical to start with more indirect stimulation and move closer and harder on your clitoris as you get closer and closer to orgasm. What are some of the fluids around your vulva during sexual activity? Arousal fluid is squeezed out of the cells in your vaginal lining as you get aroused and engorged. Cervical mucus is what you see most days in your panties. Two glands, the Bartholin’s glands around your vaginal opening secretes a fluid similar to pre-cum in a man. In a man these are called the Cowper’s glands. Around your urethral opening (pee hole) and internally around your urethra, you will find the paraurethral (or Skene’s) glands. These are also called the female prostate, and it is the equivalent to the male protate gland. The fluid owing from it is similar to male semen (without sperm of course). This fluid is called female ejaculate. Lastly there is the bladder which is responsible for urine that is also called squirting when it happens during sexual activities.I hoe this helps explain things a bit better.

I can never satisfy myself

Why am I not getting pleasure from clitoral stimulation? It feel ok, and I orgasm, but it doesnt feel good and the orgasms are weak and last for less than a second. When I tried penetration, it felt amazing, but I couldnt orgasm. What does it mean?

Last reply Nov 25, 2023

Edging is a technique that can be used to prolong an orgasm, or make an orgasm more intense. It can be used alone or with a partner. It is a form of orgasm denial where you reach a high level of sexual arousal, but do not allow yourself/your partner to orgasm (or “go over the edge”). Edging is also known as surfing or peaking. How does it work? I am going to describe this for yourself when you masturbate, but it is equally relevant when you do it with.for a partner. With a partner, he/she will have to give you feedback if you cannot read the signs that they are close to orgasm. Stimulate yourself until you get close to your orgasm, then stop for 30 seconds or longer. Open your eyes, breathe, maybe move the stimulation somewhere else for that period of time, your thighs, your behind, your breasts or nipples. Then start again. Repeat this a few times until you just can’t hold it any more or you feel ready, then allow yourself to orgasm. Edging will often lead to an extended, powerful full body orgasm. There are a number of ways to edge: Back to Zero: (ideal for when you are quick to orgasm) • Stimulate yourself to the point just before climax. • Take a break for a few minutes or even hours. Do some nipple or breast play, or get on with your day/night before picking up again • Start again with warming up and going to almost orgasm. • Repeat this process a few times before allowing yourself to go over the edge Distracting your orgasm: (ideal for when you are quick to orgasm) • Stimulate yourself to the point just before climax • Do something sudden and distracting, like squeezing, tapping, pinching or spanking somewhere else. • As soon as the feeling of increasing tension subsides, get back to business • Repeat this process a few times until you can’t take it any more and surrender to your orgasm Continuous Stimulation: (ideal when you tend to lose your orgasm) • Stimulate yourself to the point just before climax • Move the stimulation away from your clitoris to some other sensitive spot (lips, vaginal opening, anus) • Start the clit stimulation when the feeling of impending orgasm subsides • Repeat a few times until you just can’t handle it and then let yourself orgasm Some women find that riding the edge for too long can decrease their ability to have powerful orgasms, and numbs them. So you may have to experiment a few times to find your optimum point. When you finally orgasm, just surrender to the feeling. Let your body flow where it wants to. Clear your mind from distractions and concentrate on that warm coal burning inside you and that sparkle in your clitoris, threatening to light up your body. Ride the waves of heat, contractions and pleasure rippling through your body.

Last reply Nov 23, 2023

Clitoral stimulation aftershocks are mild and don’t last long. Usually only last a few minutes to a few hours. I get way more intense aftershocks that last a lot longer after penetration orgasms with my partner. Sometimes they last a couple days. Aftershocks are way more common for me during my fertile window when I’m near ovulation. It feels like my body telling me it’s baby dance time, get back at it, you need more and more and more.

I do that too!

Never!

I have wet dreams but not lucid dream orgasms

Last reply Nov 10, 2023

Masturbation

How do y’all have more than one orgasm when you masturbate because once I finish my orgasm my clit be sensitive to where I don’t want to touch it anymore. But I sometimes want to experience more than one orgasm

Last reply Nov 17, 2023

You are as “normal” as the woman that can organ 20 times in a row.. we are all unique and our bodies react differently..You can always make that one orgasm better with a technique called edging,Edging is a technique that can be used to prolong an orgasm, or make an orgasm more intense. It can be used alone or with a partner. It is a form of orgasm denial where you reach a high level of sexual stimulation, but do not allow yourself/your partner to orgasm (or “go over the edge”). Edging is also known as surfing or peaking. It is a form of orgasm denial. How does it work? I am going to describe this for when you masturbate, but it is equally relevant when you do it with.for a partner. With a partner, he/she will have to give you feedback if you cannot read the signs that they are close to orgasm. Or if you are the receiver, you will have to give feedback to him/her. Stimulate yourself until you get close to your orgasm, then stop for 30 seconds or longer. Open your eyes, breathe, maybe move the stimulation somewhere else for that period of time, your thighs, your behind, your breasts or nipples. Then start again. Repeat this a few times until you just can’t hold it any more or you feel ready, then allow yourself to orgasm. Edging will often lead to an extended, powerful full body orgasm. There are a number of ways to edge: Back to Zero: (ideal for when you are quick to orgasm) • Stimulate yourself to the point just before climax. • Take a break for a few minutes or even hours. Do some nipple or breast play, or get on with your day/night before picking up again • Start again with warming up and going to almost orgasm. • Repeat this process a few times before allowing yourself to go over the edge Distracting your orgasm: (ideal for when you are quick to orgasm) • Stimulate yourself to the point just before climax • Do something sudden and distracting, like squeezing, tapping, pinching or spanking somewhere else. • As soon as the feeling of increasing tension subsides, get back to business • Repeat this process a few times until you can’t take it any more and surrender to your orgasm Continuous Stimulation: (ideal when you tend to lose your orgasm) • Stimulate yourself to the point just before climax • Move the stimulation away from your clitoris to some other sensitive spot (lips, vaginal opening, anus) • Start the clit stimulation when the feeling of impending orgasm subsides • Repeat a few times until you just can’t handle it and then let yourself orgasm Some women find that riding the edge for too long can decrease their ability to have powerful orgasms, and numbs them. So you may have to experiment a few times to find your optimum point. When you finally orgasm, just surrender to the feeling. Let your body flow where it wants to. Clear your mind from distractions and concentrate on that warm coal burning inside you and that sparkle in your clitoris, threatening to light up your body. Ride the waves of heat, contractions and pleasure rippling through your body.