Backstory: I was with this guy for 6years, engaged year4 and to be married at year 5. Found out I was pregnant year 4 and was due to deliver February of year 5. At six months of pregnancy a lady came forward saying she was sleeping with my ex so I asked him about it, he stated no so I left it there to keep my cool since I was having a high risk pregnancy (due to my heart condition).

Weeks passed, I went into labor ( mucousplug came out, but my water did not break ) he drove to the hospital and texting other woman while I was in labor. I only knew because my doctor told me and gave him a piece of their mind. Our son was born a healthy baby boy such a moment for me pro because he was my rainbow baby. The first day back home was very hard for me and my ex didn’t make it no better. He decided to disrespect me and yell at me because the house was out of order just a bit. Before I went into labor I was sorting clothes to be washed and he was mad that my too dresser drawer was a junk drawer, but it wasn’t. It was all the bills and documents. I didn’t file away yet and that was the easiest place to have them in the top tour so I wouldn’t forget but everything else in my house was in order and was clean.

So I called his mother because I don’t play those types of games and she sent somebody to come get him. He left. After that I found out that four other women were pregnant, three had abortions and the other kept the baby) he was cheating on me with multiple women and telling them all I was a horrible person(which I’m no at all) and they were trying to threaten me. Found out I was pregnant again with a lil girl, she passed at 6 months and was due around Christmas.

Fast Forward: I had broke up with him and kicked him out when our son was seven months. He wasn’t around at all. The first and last time he’s seen our son was at 2 years old our son is now 7 years old. So he’s missed 5 years. I tried to keep him in the loop and he would agree and lie then he stop talking to me all together because I denied his advances. People keep jumping in my business saying you need to let him see his son (the same son he was denying) but the thing is I never said he couldn’t I’ve tried and tried and got denied and shut down. But, the crazy thing is that one of the girls he was cheating on me with had a baby girl on our son’s same birthday and they named her after our deceased daughter. They had her this year Feb 2024. I was pissed off at the fact you keep having kids and denying the ones you already have. But let him tell it I won’t let him see our child which is all lies he was too busy sleeping around and lying to everyone.

I had to get a restraining order on him and her for threatening me, vandalizing my car, and speaking down on my child. And the order is still in place.

So, with all that being said my son has been asking about his dad and wanted to see him, but I’m not sure if it’s a good idea because of everything that has taken place from then till now. The last threat sent to my phone was Dec 2022 only cause I blocked him and her. He’s claiming to everyone that he wants to see our son but I just don’t know. I don’t want my son to get excited for nothing and be feed false truths. A friend of mines had a similar situation and her ex and his girl killed her child and that scares me.

I would never deny my sons wishes but The way my anxiety is now has me worried a lot. What should I do?

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