Growing up, my hubby and I dealt with absent fathers and mothers that were mentally unstable . We didn't want our kids to be around that and we didn't want them to be around our mothers while they weren't on their meds or on too much. My mom has proven that she can handle hers and she did it to be in her grand childrens life. His mom for the other hand.. Fucking nuts man! She flushed all of her pills down the damn toilet because her unemployment check got cut off because the doctor said she was fit mentally to work and she can't afford insurance and her Medicaid got cut and just a bunch of shit. My hubby told her to not text him or ask to even be around her grandkids until she gets back on her meds because that bitch is crazy and needs it.. Trust me. Anyways, she's going off on me now because she knows the situation with my mom and said it wasn't fair that she's crazy too and abuses her pills but gets to see our son and our daughter when she gets here. I grew up with my mom abusing her crazy pills or not even taking them.. I have the scars, I have the memory's. If I didn't feel like my mother wasn't safe for the kids to be around you bet your ass they wouldn't be. But we're both comfortable and our son loves her. He's scared of my hubby's mom and cries everytime she gets close to him because she is too aggressive and loud. It's to the point she won't ever get the chance to have the kids or her son in her life per his choice. It's not my mom, not my choice but their is NO WAY IN HELL that crazy lady will be around my kids unmedicated