I'm 21 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I'm feeling incredibly possessive over her... but only when it comes to my MIL. This is her first grandchild and the only girl to be born into the family in 33 years. We get along beautifully and she's a wonderful woman but her excitement scares me. She insisted on buying a crib and a stroller and a car seat all for her house when she only lives five minutes away, it makes me feel like she thinks she's going to have my baby all the time and that will absolutely not be the case. She insisted on coming to our first ultrasound and broke my hospitals rules by barging in the room and I felt like that was an experience my SO and I should have shared just between the two of us and it was stolen. I have yet to tell her she will not be welcome in the delivery room, or in the room at all while I'm in labour. She won't even be allowed to see baby until shes at least an hour old (my SO and I want to bond with our baby alone). The only people welcome in the room during labour and delivery will be my SO and my best friend, our baby's godmother.

Also, we had originally planned on staying with her for a few days after the baby arrived by it gives me so much anxiety I would rather just go home and get settled and have her visit, since I'll be recovering.

I feel so emotional and just plain rude. She makes me feel so guilty like I'm denying her her granddaughter when really i just want to be comfortable... am I wrong for feeling this way?