My Sister wants me to change the middle name of my son. I'm giving him the middle name Jonathan, after my Father, who passed when I was 6. I was adopted at birth, so he is the only father I've ever known. He was a hemophiliac, so he wasn't my sister's biological father either. He wanted kids, but didn't want to pass along the disease.

A month ago my sister told me that she thought our father was weak for wanting kids when he knew he was going to die young. I thought that made him strong, knowing he won't be able to watch us grow up, but still wanting to give us as much love as possible. And I was always a Daddy's girl.

Anyway, my Sister is saying that I need to change the middle name from Jonathan, because she wanted it. Apparently since our Mother is her biological mother and he was married to her, she has the right to give her child his name. I don't see how this is fair since she has been talking badly about him, and I have always respected him.

My Sister is also an alcoholic. She is 20 and has been drinking very heavily since 15. She got pregnant a few years back, and knew she wanted an abortion, so she went around asking her friends to punch her in the stomach while they were all drinking. Once they hit her she would say "Know you helped me kill this life sucker." She says she is going sober, but with all the passed heavy drug and alcohol use, I don't trust her. She's said it a million times before.

Should I change my Son's middle name to make her happy, or risk her being pissed at me? We've never really been close anyway, she constantly tells me that since I am adopted, I'm not really a part of "her" family.

*I had cut her out of my life, since she couldn't stop talking badly about my marriage, so we haven't seen each other for 3 years. We're just now starting to kind of have a relationship, so I know that she'll walk out of my life if I don't change the name.