Frustrated

Ok, so my two year old doesn't want my husband and I to be intimate. She doesn't like us even sitting together on the couch. I swear she has some kind of alarm that goes off any time we sneak away to well try to make her a brother or sister. I have other kidos so I have mastered the art of silent lovemaking. So it's not that we are loud. We just let her cry if we are in the middle of things which makes for a less than exhilarating experience and since this is hubbys 1st child he has loads of guilt. So for lack of a better term my toddler is a cock blocker and darn good one at that. Does anyone else have this issue?  Offer advice?  We are using essential oils to help her sleep deeper but it is kind of back firing cause we fall asleep faster too haha. I know this too shall pass and totally not worried about my marriage being effected cause we communicate well. Just feel like this could be harder TTC with the sex police aka our little one busting up the party. 😂. Thanks in advance for the advice we are open to trying anything to get about 20-30 minutes ever few days. Also it is so weird how she just wakes up even if it's about 15 minutes into her nap or bed time. She wakes up and wants mommy. Oh ya and she is still breast fed morning and at night.