Just another problem with a guy...

On January I met this guy through common friends at a party. We hit it off since the very beginning, we talked all night long up until around 4 a.m. I also felt a flirty vibe between us.

A few days later I texted him and then suddenly we were texting each other every single day. We were talking on friendly terms but yet I felt like there was this tension.

Anyhow, I saw him again around a month later at another 'party' (it was just a gathering really), with the friends. We all drank some wine and before I knew it I was making out with him. Then one thing led to another and we had sex. Oops.

I wasn't very drunk but I still had sex with him for some reason. You see, it was my first time so it is not like I tend to sleep with a guy I've only seen twice but I am really attracted to him so it happened.

The next day he texted me and we continued texting each other as if nothing had changed.

A week later he asked me out to dinner. We went out and talked a bit of what had happened but not a serious talk. We just mentioned it and then continued talking and laughing like we usually do.

Then suddenly, a few days later he got more distant and eventually we stopped texting. A few weeks went by and I missed talking to him and I was also frustrated that he started acting weird just because. That is when I decided to call him and tell him that I was feeling frustrated and also a bit confused about everything. He said that he cares about me a lot and that he knows we can always have a laugh together but that he wanted us to be just friends.

I thought that was cool because I don't want a relationship either.

Yet the very next day I saw him at another gathering with our friends and at the end of the night had sex again. Next morning we stayed on bed cuddling and talking. And we talked about real things, not about what we like or dislike, but about our personal things and issues and stuff.

But then he disappeares again, 2 weeks go by and we haven't talked. I decided to text him to tell him about something random that happened to me just like we used to. We exchange a few texts and then he stops answering.

My best friend told me maybe he is just a player, but I really don't think so. He introduced me to some of his friends that are now sort of my friends too (I think that is not a very player thing to do). He sucks at flirting haha, he really isn't cut out for this. And the first time we had sex, it was the first time of both of us and we are 20 years old. He really doesn't seem to be a player.

Anyway, my question is, should I ask him why is he avoiding me?

I don't want to lose his friendship, I like him, but I do want us to be just friends because I am not ready to be with someone.

Thank you so much for reading and sorry for the long post

:)