Ralationship confusion

So my boyfriend and I both work in the food and beverage department for the same company just different hotels. I'm a cocktail server. He's a barback/cook/room service server/bartender. He always talks about how cocktail serving is so easy and irrelevant. Granted he's talking about his own hotel and not mine but I feel so disrespected and unappreciated. Lately my hotel(the better ranked hotel) has been super slow and his hotel has been busy. I'm very stressed about work(since I work based on tips) and when he gets home all he says is "omg we were so swamped now I'm so sore but I made soooo much money!!" I know he works really hard but I'm already stressed about how much I make and he makes an hourly already ($9 an hour where I make $5 an hour) and he wants me to pay half of everything. I pay half because I used it so I should pay my fair share. But when I'm broke he talks about how irrelevant my job is. I work hard too and I feel so disrespected. Everything is on his schedule and he talks about my position like it shouldn't even exist. I'm already stressed I just want to feel appreciated. I work hard why doesn't my struggles and stresses mean the same thing as his? I just want to know if I'm being crazy. Also his current hotel and a new competing hotel are in a bidding war over him. He worked hard for what he has and what he's been offered and he's a few years older than me so I'm so proud of him but he makes me feel like the things I've worked so hard for are irrelevant and not worth recognizing. I just want to be appreciated for working as hard as I do.