I feel like everything is seriously falling apart...

Sonia
I just dropped my husband at the airport off. 
And I'm very upset and for you guys to understand why I have to tell the whole story. 
My husband is a private military contractor and deployed into a combat zone today. It's our first deployment together, but it's his 6th deployment ( he was army infantry before )... So anyways he was married before and his ex hates me with all her guts. I told him to set up an contract for her to sign that he will pay her an special amount of childsupport every month until he stops that job. So he would be on the safe side and couldn't get screwed over.. He wrote that contract maybe two weeks ago and he promised me he would get it signed and notarized... On Friday he didn't do it. So I was upset because he just kept saying he would and then he didn't. All weekend he kept a distance to me and I don't know why.. 
Yesterday we came back home from bush gardens and dose ey with his kids and brought them to their mom and she started yelling at him why he is 30 minutes early and he always does that shit.. So I told him again "she treats you like shit and you will end up screed over!" - we have the kids more than she has, we pay everything for them. She doesn't even is able to make sure they have food at home! - so that's why she simply doesn't deserve more because she uses the money for herself and not the kids.. He started ignoring me and when we got home he finally started packing! Also we had our wedding anniversary, our first one, last week. And we didn't celebrate it, I didn't even got cheap flowers or a nice "thanks for being my wife"... So I told him again.. " how all this is fair to me? I have to deal with all the drama, and i don't even get one night to celebrate our anniversary propperly?" He threw his Mac book towards me, crashed the mirror of my vanity and left. Since that we didn't talked at all. We slept in one bad but instead of holding me because it was our last night... Nothing. He woke up today got ready.. Waited for me to bring him to the airport and left. A hug with one hand, that's all I got.. I said I love you and nothing came back... I'm so freaking upset. I don't know if that's because he deployed... But he never threw anything towards me. That was the first time.. It just hurts me that he's gone now and we were in a fight.. It really hurts me.