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Why do I feel like a baby won't "fit in"?

Audrey
Halfway through week 8, and I suddenly have a feeling that a baby won't "fit" into our lives. It doesn't make any sense; We're both 26, have been married 4 years, we're so happy together and he's excited about the pregnancy, we have our own place even if it is just a tiny apartment, and we can even kind of afford a new baby. We'll probably go into a little debt, but doesn't everyone the first time? My husband is even encouraging me to be a stay-at-home mom, he wants to provide for us. So what else could I ask for? Did you have doubts, even when your pregnancy was planned? (This one was!)
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Ja

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No, not everyone goes into debt for their first baby. My SO and I are living off just his paycheck and doing fine. It's all about budgeting. You really don't need a $300 crib or a $600 travel system. There's a lot that people think they need for a baby but really don't. Just take a step back and look at finances to see how you should break up buying stuff. We slowly bought stuff. 11 weeks - crib, 18 weeks - swing. Buy used if you can and it'll all work out. 

Ja

Jackie • May 31, 2016
Ohh. Insurance pays a lot. There's ways to work out payments for it. I didn't think about medical expenses because our insurance covers everything

Au

Audrey • May 31, 2016
This is good advice, thanks! I was thinking more about medical expenses, though!

Tr

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I did this too lol this is what I like to call when everything seems too perfect let my mind ruin it for myself. There's no reason why you should feel this way sometimes when things go so smoothly we make things up in our heads like problems that don't exist. I'm the queen of this. The baby will fit in just fine!!!! Enjoy the pregnancy don't worry about things that haven't happened yet and be happy :)

To

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I experienced it when I was pregnant with my first (and at the beginning of my second too... actually), but as soon as they place your baby in your arms, you wonder what life was before baby. :) 

El

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I'm 32, my husband is 31. We have been married for 3 years, we bought a house, we are both employed, and the baby was planned, and I STILL wonder how it's all going to work out! Lol 

Mo

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Yea it's just pregnancy scares you are going to make one of the biggest changes in both of your lives it's normal to feel scared, nervous and at times doubtful even when the pregnancy is planned either way all first time moms and even ones that are not feels some type of way during the pregnancy. It will be okay! 

Er

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I think its normal to have cold feet at some point. There's likely to be things about your life as it is now that you'll have to change, so it's good to start thinking about it now. A mom of 3 once told me "No one is ever 100%, even if they think they are." You'll be fine. 

Ja

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I feel the same way. I'm 27 my husbands 29. I think the older you have kids it's "harder" because we get into our "selfish" ways. Don't worry. I know it's hard not to but I feel NO time is ever the "right time". Just have faith and you will make it through.
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