Baby's last name- yours, his, or both?

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Okay mommas without the rings, so I never planned on even changing or hyphenating my last name when i got married, half because I'm already established in my career and half because I feel passionate about keeping my last name due to the honor of having it period. But I HAD planned on giving my babies their fathers last name or maybe hyphenating it but that depends whether I decided to make their life that much more complicated. Anyhoo, My SOs last name is AWFUL, Hortenbury. I can't think of ONE name that goes well with it. I'm 11 weeks tomorrow and this is something I keep going back to and thinking about, I feel like he's going to FLIP if I even mention not giving the baby his last name. But also, he and I aren't married so I feel like I'm not OBLIGATED to do so, maybe if we do get married I can either change it or add it on. Idk what are your guys thoughts on this? Or experiences?

PS my last name is Giordano. Just picture that possible combo for a second lol.

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I'm not married. My child and future children will always get the last name of their father. Regardless of how involved the father is or not. I didn't make the child myself and I chose to lay with them.

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You don't owe him anything. I would personally give the baby two last names of y'all aren't together. A man certainly isn't owed anything for his sperm when it comes to name giving.

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I planned on making my last name my child's last name... It's kind of a tradition in my family. I have my mother's maiden name as my middle name and I want my little girl to do the same.

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My first child has my last name but only because I knew things weren't going well and he is a horrible father practically non existent. 
With this baby I know things have been well and he is a GREAT step father (different guy) even though we aren't married. Anyways his last name is Higginbotham which when I first read it I thought it was funny sounding but even at that I am going to give this child his last name because he deserves at least that. Especially since we plan on marrying. Just stick to the fathers name. You get to carry the baby, and have the baby. Let him be apart of it somehow. No matter how silly or "not gonna sound right" it is.
It's not a bad last name at all!

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I accidentally hit 'mine' but meant 'his' 
Your SO's last name is not bad at all, in fact (now I'm not being ugly here, just my opinion) I think it's much better than yours.
My married and current last name is LIMONES - pronounced Lee-Mōn-Es and I dislike it so much it took me five years to change it after we got married but I did because he is my husband and I choose him, name and all - I have never thought about NOT giving my children their fathers last name - again just my opinion - good luck with everything

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I'm not married to my boyfriend but he is the father of my twins and he wants to be involved in their life and maybe in the future get married. I haven't doubt it for a second that my babies will have his last name. My opinion it's not about marriage or you it's about him being the dad and wanting to be there for his baby. Good luck on your decision 😉

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I am married with husbands last name but if I wasn't I would have given the child my name. I wouldn't want the baby to be different to me.

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Mine and hers, actually

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"Other"!!!!!

My SO and I have been together for 3 years now. This was a planned pregnancy. Both of us were married before so no big rush to get married again.

After my divorce I swore I would never change my name again. I hated changing it to begin with. I do not plan on changing it and I've been upfront with him about it as well.

My sister has been married for like a bajillion years (25 I'm guessing, her oldest is 22). She never changed her last name. She hated hyphenated last names. So she gave her children her last name as thier middle name!!!!

So I was thinking of making the middle name "actual middle name-my last name". After all  who really cares about your middle name??i only used it when I signed mortgage paperS. That's it. I think it's a lot for a child to have a hyphenated last name. What if they get married and then have a triple last name??

Baby's last name- yours, his, or both?

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