Well here's the thing- I want to be close-ish to home. I don't care if it's a few hour drive but I want it to be DRIVABLE in less than 48 hours (drive from CA to KY) I want my family to be able to be involved, I've ALWAYS promised myself that if and when I got pregnant I'd move back to CA, I just didn't expect to get pregnant this soon. 

About SO, he has a lot of things to get in order I'll be completely honest because I want honest opinions and advice. He has a DUI, no license, a 6 year old son with his ex wife, and is working an under the table "mom&pop" job. He's working his ass off since he found out don't get me wrong but I don't want to think oh it's because of the baby because clearly his son was not enough motivation to get it together to begin with. 

About me, I am NOT the one to depend on anyone, I never have been and never will be.  I have for sure good jobs whether I stay in KY or move back to CA. I could support myself for sure but I know shit happens and I might need someone to fall back on at times, I'm NOT comfortable depending on him, although he has always made sure I am taken care of he doesn't get his own priorities taken care of which I think is a double edged sword. 

I know for a fact my parents would have my back if things ever went down and be involved with the baby as active grandparents, he lost his biological mother last year and his biological father is not at all involved in his life let alone his child's. His step dad and step brother are really crappy to him so we essentially have no "family" out that way. I have a crap ton here and also it would be a great clean slate and fresh start for him. 

He hasn't been very communicative about how he feels or what he wants but apparently has been talking about it to my best friend which I find really shitty. Especially since he basically told her oh I'll move there for a few months then we will move back to rent out my family's property and y'all can live with us, UH NO!!!!! Don't get me wrong I love my best friend to death but her choice of lifestyle is not mine and I sure as hell don't want to be living with another couple while trying to raise a baby. 

I just don't know what to do, I want to move back to CA but I don't know if he will compromise that, even if I have a better paying job and a secure place to live whereas he doesn't. 

Am I just being too stubborn and reluctant to rely on him? Should I just put some faith in him? I just don't want to get SCREWED for doing so. I have the opportunity of a lifetime in CA job wise too. 

Thoughts? Advice? Please no negativity.