My mil has a coworker that has offered to give us a bunch of stuff like a car seat and swing and what not. It's definitely a nice gesture but it's like.. I'm fine buying it myself. I'm having a babyshower too. I will accept them anyway but idk. Her friend has a little boy and all of it is blue and gender neutral. I'm having a girl and am the type who wants to everything to be girly with purple and pink. :/