So, my mother-in-law, bless her heart, really wants to be helpful after the baby comes, but she keeps suggesting things she did for her daughter's first baby that I'm not really comfortable with, like staying at our house or us staying at her house (to be fair, she lives a mile away, I see no need for either of those things to happen). I'm very different from her daughter, I'm much more private and introverted and independent, so my needs are different (and also, she's not my mom, so it's not as comforting to me to have her around all the time as it is to her daughter).