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Partner wants to terminate :/

My partner has a 6 year old daughter he hardly sees because of complications with her ridiculous mother.

We're struggling financially & he feels he may lose his job. Although I start my job just a couple weeks from now, he feels it's not fair to bring another child into this world if he/we won't be able to give them everything

I've been pregnant before but had to terminate because I was severely ill, I thought I had managed to disconnect myself & realise it was for the best but became quite depressed, envious & angry at myself when around pregnant women & babies (my newborn goddaughter included as they would've been born just a few weeks apart) he knows this.

This time, I'm so much healthier & In a better place, yes I'm starting a new job & going back to part time study so the timing might not be great but I'm so happy & already so in love with this 2nd chance I've been given to be the best mom I can be. But all he seems to feel is worry & concern, he feels as if we're not ready & well enough prepared to be parents right now and that it is in everyone's best interest to terminate & wait a few years.

I feel like unless we come to a mutual decision our relationship will breakdown because if I have a termination I'm only gnna get depressed, set myself back again & resent him & if i keep it he's only gnna resent me :/ I said if he didn't wnna be a father again I'd raise this baby by myself but he says he couldn't have another child & not be there for them

I have no idea what to do, I don't wanna burden him but I don't wanna strip myself of this blessing either :/

Advice would be greatly appreciated

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