Sigh ; ( what do I do!?

Question

Long story short,
My fiance and I have two kids from separate relatiinships. He has said many times he doesn't want to have anymore kids. Financially were alright, but he still worries. I found out I am 5 weeks 2 day pregnant.  We where on nuvaring!!!! I was scared because I knew he wouldn't be happy. Now he's talking about abortion, because he doesn't think that having another kid is going to improve our lives or our current children's lives. Less money for our children and less money means more stress. I don't want to get an abortion, absolutely refuse!!!  Life is precious. No matter how small. What do I do? Is he never going to be happy again.

Answer

I would tell him straight up that abortion is not an option. Look into adoption if you feel it is the right thing and have a plan of you choose that course of action. Otherwise let him know that you are keeping the child and if he dosent like it he dosent have to stay. An unplanned pregnancy can be stressful. I found out I was pregnant and was horrified. We have 2 beautiful children and between family problems from the in laws and a long custody battle with my oldest now adopted son we were not prepared emotionally or financially for another child. I imedieatly researched adoption as I had planned if my birth control and condoms ever failed. My husband while he said he supported me and was very helpful in the process became very depressed and so I decided we would keep the child as I could not force him into a decision like that. I am now 21 weeks and we found out in March. I am no longer dreading the thought but honestly I'm still very reserved with my feelings. I know I will be in love when I hold him but right now it's still hard. 
I say give him time and don't make any hard decisions right now. You have tons of time though it dosent feel like it. If he dosent come around then you can have a back up plan of adoption or continue raising your children on your own until you find someone that will love them like they should be.

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My husband is the same way when it comes to money and support so I know how hard they take it when something comes up that they were not expecting. It may help to get some outside help. Someone that doesn't have an opinion either way and can listen to both sides and help you and your husband out with this decision.

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I was talking with my husband about women's rights and abortions the other day, and we both came to a conclusion that if a woman wants to have abortion or don't want to, it's absolutely her decision. Even in the case the partner is involved (boyfriend, lover, husband, fiancé..etc) it's still the woman's choice.

Here is my advice: I have never been in your shoes before so this advice is purely intellectual. IF you want to keep your baby, then you need to talk to your partner about keeping the baby. Think of YOUR happiness and health before you let (the possibility) of his unhappiness force you to make a decision you don't want to make.

Good luck, dear!

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Stick with your decision!!! My guess would be he is scared about figuring out how to support everyone.

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