You first time gals are all scared of tearing too right?

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Repeat moms have any words to share with us first timers? 
I know many say massage with oil, others say you wont know during labor that it happened but dang if the concept isn't horrifying.

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Im not a first time mom but I have had to be stitched up a few times after birth, the worst is having to poop after 😫

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I'm terrified 😩

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I had a third degree tear (vagina to butt hole) with my first! There's nothing you can really do to prevent it! It just all depends on how the baby is positioned when they come out. I am praying that I don't tear with this one! The recovery was miserable with my daughter.

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I tore with my first daughter just a little but didn't even know that I did until the dr told me after she was born. Had to get a couple stitches and everything went great!!

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You don't always tear. A lot of hospitals do perineal massage to prevent the tear. If you do, you'll heal :)

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Honestly it's about listening to your body and the dr. With my son I didn't tear at all that was one thing I was afraid about. But if you go in with the mind set everything will be okay and be open to change, you'll do great.

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Take your time with pushing. And relax. I was a FTM and didn't tear at all. I had one little stitch & I was 19. I used EPO vaginally from 36-41 weeks and I believe it helped me stretch. Also, tucks witch hazel pads are amazing along with dermoplast numbing spray for recovery! Every time I went potty I'd spray myself off with the squirt bottle then of myself dry and spray dermoplast then I'd put a fresh tucks pad on top of my regular always pad.

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I'd rather tear than have another episiotomy. The episiotomy was so painful I actually cussed at the nurses - which is not like me at all. It was far worse than the contractions or the birth.

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I never tore with ether baby.  Had a "skid "with the first which is just a small scrape like mark and the inside of my lips. I suggest you let the Drs know how you feel about them cutting you and that you would like to use techniques such as massage to avoid tears. Tell them you would like to avoid the episiotomy at all costs.

Episiotomies used to be standard in birthing and are no longer considered necessary like they used to be. You do not have to allow this to happen to you if it is not entirely necessary so please educate yourself and speak with your caregivers about this. Also, let your husband or close family member know your birthing wishes in case you are overwhelmed or not in a state to communicate well during labor. You may not know the dr on duty that delivers the baby in some circumstances. :) I hope this is helpful:)

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My friend birthed a 10lb 7oz baby for her first and didn't tear at all. She said her tip was to listen to the dr. When they say stop pushing, you stop pushing no matter how hard it is. The slower baby comes out, the longer you have to stretch. When it happens too fast, that's when you tear. :)

You first time gals are all scared of tearing too right?

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