I live with my boyfriend and his wife. Don't trip, keep reading. They no longer have a romantic relationship and haven't had that type of relationship for over 10 years. We all know where we are in this and what our place is. No we don't all sleep together! His marriage is a legal contract which had no effect on his relationship with his wife. He has treated me with respect, I've never been some sort of secret to anyone and everyone around us knows his feelings for me and has done day 1,including his wife. We've been in a relationship for over 10 years. Recent circumstances caused the cohabitation of us all. Moving on...Our relationship has suffered due to my lies about my past relationships and his retaliation toward me due to these lies. My thoughts are, I lied for years about my past relationships but I have not lied to him about anything that has happened in our relationship. i don't like lies and I know lying isn't right but I lied to protect a small part of myself. my boyfriend feels that the lies are the most important part. He just wants to know me and what has happen to me to make function the way that I do. My boyfriend has also lied...he lied to me about things that happened in our relationship. He has used my insecurities as weapons against me. I don't like how he talks to me or how he treats me when he's angry. There are things that he does that I don't feel is right but he feels that if he has an reasonable excuse for why he does these things, it's ok. And i feel he uses the wife to play on my insecurities when he's pissed. Our relationship is on the brink of disaster. There is so much more to this story but I'll appreciate some thoughts on the things mentioned here in this post.