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Please, I'm in need of some advice! (It's long sorry)

Laurel • Wed, Jul 13

Me and my fiancé (amanda). Yes I am gay. Let me start off with that.

We have been together on and off for 4 years. Together fully August 8th will be 2 years.

I used to work 3 jobs but it got a little tough for me so I cut it down to two. And she works 1.

The house we are in. I put down the 2020$ to move in. And the car we have I Put down the 500$ to get the car.

We have 10 bills a month.

I pay half of 3 and the full 7.

And she pays half of 3.

We have 6 animals. 3 dogs and 3 cats.

I bathe the animals on my days off. I buy the food for the house. When laundry needs to be done I do it. She only washed her clothes for work. Never mine.

I was told if we broke up everything is hers because she pays half of everything which is fine I have no issue giving her everything I have an starting over. I've had to start over in my life 7-8 times.

I work overnights now anyone who has worked overnights before and then goes to a 9-5 job during the day knows it puts a toll on your body. She continuously says sorry but nothing changes.

She says she will try to get another job. Or work on getting her raise at the one she's at.

But she expects me to pay for everything. For example. We will go get food and I'll order it and then pay for it and after I pay she says "oh I could have paid for it" well why the fuck does you wait till I paid for it ?

The animals need to be fixed and have shots and now out of all the animals we have 3 are hers and 3 are kind. But she isn't helping me pay for any of them.

Then our ac broke and she told me I had to get it fixed ASAP. well just because I make a little extra money then her doesn't seem fair.

We are also trying to have a baby. Well I am the only one that is paying the donor any amount of money to have him come to the clinic for me.

Then I think what topped it all off was the last month.

June 26th was her birthday I saved 500$ for her bday. Bought her a new wardrobe and threw her a big party.

Then a week later my birthday is July 3rd. I had saved up 600$ for my birthday, to get my nails done and my toes and my eyebrows and a couple tattoos. I was gonna pamper myself because I recently have experienced such terrible birthdays.

She only gave me 100$ NOW LET ME CLARIFY

I do not. I repeat DO NOT CARE HOW MUCH MONEH SHE GAVE ME. ITS RHE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS. what gets me is the fact that when I was in my tattoo appt which ended up costing 350 cause I went to a different artist.

I had to use the rest of MY birthday money to get her a tattoo.

I then cleaned the house and told her that the laundry needed to be folded and the dishes washed. Well she never touched them. 3 days went by nothing. Then trash day came so I cleaned the house again when I came home from overnight to get the trash out. I had let the dogs out to go to the bathroom. Well the dog barked And woke her and she was mad because I woke her. I don't know what to do anymore.

I just need some advice

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