Help 😱

So I haven't lost my virginity yet bc my hymen hasn't been stretched or whatever. But we have been trying and sometimes when we try, I get this feeling to pee and I really have to pee. I get up and go use the bathroom. It's not that I have to squirt or anything bc it doesn't feel good at all.  It even hurts when I put my Finger in the hole He hasn't even busted my cherry yet. I need advice on why I get this feeling? Should I get it checked out? Also, being that we have tried having sex multiple times why hasn't my cherry popped? Is there something wrong with me? I have to have one bc if I didn't, it would be pleasurable but it's not. What's going on with my sex life! ?