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don't know if this can help you but I'm gonna give you some anecdotal advice anyway😂 I've never been the clingy type, but when I moved in with my fiancé (only man I've ever lived with), I expected that any time were at home together, we should be in the same room or interacting with each other. (I thought it'd be rude for me to be in the basement while he's in the living room, for example.) At some point he, who used to be married to someone else, pointed it out to me and kindly explained that we're two very individual people who can enjoy all of our own things apart from each other, yes even when we're in the same house. And it dawned on me then that, no shit he likes his space. Just because we live together doesn't mean our lives have to completely center around each other and most importantly - he is interested in me because we have different lives, we are 2 very independent people and we are able to talk about our individual lives, thoughts, ideas, at the end of the day and enjoy it. I think that last bit is important because in order to be able to discuss your different thoughts/ideas, you must be separate from the person so that you can form your own identity. Keep in my mind that your current boyfriend was attracted to you in the beginning (and now of course) because you have your own identity, not because you were clinging to his.
How to stop being so clingy?
I've only been in one relationship and in that relationship we were always clingy with eachother ex) spending the whole day together, always talking on the phone/texting. So it kind of made me expect every relationship to be just like that.. My new boyfriend is not as clingy, he's going to school to be a dentist so he's always busy studying or doing something school related.. Which means he doesn't have time to be constantly calling me or texting me, we also don't get to see eachother everyday because of schedule. I really like him, but I don't want to ruin this realtionship by being the annoying clingy girlfriend. What are ways I can cope with this? How can I stop being so needy/clingy?
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