Please don't judge me when I say this but my son is driving me up the walls! He is 8 and his father and i split up when he was almost 4. His biodad has since taken himself out of the picture. I know this is hard for him but he isnt always like this!!. I am remarried and my husband has stepped up as my kids dad. I have 2 daughters as well and am pregnant with my now husbands child. My son doesn't do anything for himself when he is fully capable and when I ask him why he says "I thought someone could do it for me" I try to explain that he needs to start doing things for himself. We also have to break down every single step for him or he just stands there and does nothing. Example: get yourself a bowl of cereal for breakfast...he will get completely overwhelmed and it will take him 10+ minutes just to get the bowl and spoon. But if I watch him and tell him...grab a bowl...get a spoon....pour your cereal...pour your milk.....he can do it...but he looks at me to make sure he is doing it right. I tell him to keep going he's doing just fine. But if I don't guide him he completely freezes up! It's like he's so scared to do anything wrong so he does nothing! He also cries....all the time.....his little sister will sit where he wants to sit....he cries....he doesn't pick up his toys and I tell him to pick them up before doing anything else....he cries....if if have to raise my voice for whatever reason even a tiny bit....he cries....it's like just looking at him wrong makes him cry.....it's this normal??? I feel like I have done something wrong here and he is not a normal 8 yr old boy! He is very quiet but when he's with other kids he is loud and plays just fine. He plays with his little sister, shes 5, most of the time and he will start acting like a 5 year old. He lets her control him and get him in trouble even when he knows things are wrong. He doesnt speak up or decide for himself. He doesn't put together what he needs to say, he stutters and freezes up when you ask him a question.....it scares me because he acts like he's abused but I have never ever laid a finger on him! My husband has had many talks with him and tries to connect with him, and most of the time they get along great! But when he does things like this it drives everyone nuts! Is my son slow??? What is going on?!