Wanting to start a family young?

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My boyfriend and I are in college (about to start as juniors, ages 18&21). We are both big believers in marriage and very eager to be parents - it was the main goal in life for both of us before we met. I grew up in a very conservative old-fashioned town and while I don't subscribe to a religion, I do still live by some of the values (such as marrying young and for life, and that have a family is the highest calling). Our parents are very supportive and eager for us to get married. We're certainly not rich - we both work part-time as waiters but I have a pretty successful side hustle that is growing rapidly and will only earn more with time. We wouldn't be able to afford a lot, but a wedding and rent and modest living costs wouldn't be a stretch. We both come from incredibly poor families...for us, the American Dream is simply food on the table and a fixer upper house.

We want kids so bad...he and I both get very broody when we see little kids in stores or on Facebook. I'm so eager to get married next year, have kids in about 3 years. My question is, are our crazy broody feelings just hormonal, or should we make a beeline for our dream? When I see 12-15 year olds on Glow talking about TTC...it seems ridiculous to me, and I find myself thinking "hormones can do crazy things"...and then, "What if I'm just hormonal and I don't genuinely want a family yet?" And am I romanticizing married life and rushing into it?

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Girl do it! It's what you always wanted. You don't have to be a rich to be happy. You're going to school and making something of yourselves. My parents had 4 kids and my dad was a nurse and my mom a stay at home mom. We were POOR. But I don't see any of that looking back. All I see is the love that filled our home. My dad is now a doctor and still amazing. But he worked hard for what they have. My husband and I are super poor right now as well. We have a daughter. We can't give her much right now, but she doesn't need much. She just needs to be loved, fed, and have a clean diaper and clothes. She's the happiest little girl.

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My boyfriend and I had our son when I was 18 and he was 20. Now, I am 20 and he is 21 and we are TTC our third (our second is an angel baby). We aren't married yet, but we both have stable jobs, we live on our own, and we are going to get married at the end of next year. No, our son wasn't an accident. He was 100% planned. We felt that we were ready to be parents and that is what we wanted. We can't wait to have another and give our son a lifelong friend. If that is what you want, then go for it!

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My husband and I are only 21. We are going through the same thing as you. Just have a cute little courthouse wedding and BBQ at a relatives house. If you decide you're ready for a baby (think financially too here) then do it. For us we want a baby so badly but what's stopping us isn't money but time. No one is ever home except after 7. You just have to look at all aspects and angles of your life and figure "okay does a baby fit here? If not how could one?" You don't want to struggle with a baby. Don't have a baby for selfish reasons.

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I got married at 18, my husband was 23. We are having our 3rd boy. He works and I stay home with our kids. This year both of our boys will be in school while I have our newest boy. I love having kids young. I feel like my body will bounce back quicker, and when my kids are grown, I'll still be young enough to enjoy the rest of my life with my husband. My advice is, finish college and then go from there. Being married isn't always easy, but love is what makes a marriage thrive. When times get hard, you have to lean on each other for support. And as long as you have your SO's support, that's all you need. We were looked down on cause I was so young when we had our first son (I was 18) but now, everyone is crazy about our boys. I'm 23 now with our 3rd one coming and I'm so happy that my life turned out the way it did.

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I'm 20 my husband's 20 we been married for a year and we have been trying ever since we been married and it's amazing :). We both are old fashion. I love it tho. He works I tend to the house and do bazaars. And sell re done furniture on the side.  Lots of people look down on us for getting married young and living how we do. But it's not their life to live. It's whatever you want to do its your life :) good luck!

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Dont rush it. Once you have kids your life is all about kids. Enjoy your freedom. Go travel and do things that you can't necessarily do when you have kids. Get a good job and have a stable income and a good financial base then have kids. Make sure you're in a position to be there for your kids. I was born right before my dad started medical school and I hardly knew it ever got to see my dad till after I was 8 and it sucked.

Just do your self a favor and do everything you dream of doing first then have kids so that you wont have regrets.  It's ok to have kids later in life. It's not a race.

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My Husband is 19, and I'm 21. We are pregnant with our first, granted it wasn't planned, we are ecstatic to be parents. He even went out and got patenting books right away.

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I say wait until yall finish college, a little more waiting won't hurt and will actually give the baby a better future from both of y'all. Having a baby is a big step and big responsibility, yeah maybe not being rich but being stable and not stress about money expenses is important for the whole family to be happy. If y'all love each other and are happy with one another I'm sure y'all want the best for y'all future children so why not give them more than enough! 🤗

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Go with what your heart tells you to do. I turn 18 in a couple of days and my fiancé turns 19 in a week and a half. We have been together for 4 years on September 17th which is also the day we plan on getting married. I am 6 1/2 months pregnant and we are so beyond excited. Everyone else rolls their eyes at us because it all happened so young but we're happy together and that's all that matters 💗

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