"Fighting" with your SO but still tryin'a BD

So let me start off by saying I am one stubborn woman. The other night my husband and I got into what I call a "fight". We don't actually fight more like talk about things then we both kind of shut down until we can find the words to resolve things. Anywho we got into a small tiff about the way he says things when I'm having an OCD moment. It started with me having to check the front door too many times to make sure it was locked  (we have dogs that have a habit of walking in & out of doors. Our neighbors don't seem to mind anymore haha) anyway he said "ughh come on babe, it's locked. You already checked" and "you need to check yourself when you do things like that" which I understand but stubborn me got a little too offended and decided it was time for the soghlent treatment *i get it from my mama*. Well we "needed" to BD but didn't because I couldn't grow a pair. So my long story question is... What do y'all do when you know you need to BD but you're in a tiff with your SO?