It it selfish..?

Question

So, my sister and I are both pregnant. I'm due in September and she's due in December. 
People were really upset with me when I announced my pregnancy because my son will only be 20 months when my baby is born. No one really cared or asked about me or the baby until we found out it was a girl (we haven't had a new girl in the family in 6 years. But we have 8 boys all under the age of 5!) 
So, after we announced the gender people were excited... Then my sister announced her pregnancy. She recently got married and she told everyone she wasn't able to have kids (which wasn't true. She just diagnosed herself because they had been having unprotected sex and she never got pregnant). 
Ever since she announced her pregnancy that's all anyone talks about. 
It doesn't bother me that everyone is so excited for her.. I had my moment in the baby spotlight with my first.. But she found out what she's having today and is announcing it Saturday. And part of me secretly hopes that it's a boy. 
I feel terrible about it, but I feel like the only reason people even cared about my baby is because she's a girl and if my sister has a girl they'll overlook my baby like they did before.

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I understand where you are coming from and I see your point and while I don't think it's selfish to feel this way I don't think it's healthy either. You need to be focused on that little one and know that she will get all the love and attention she deserves and those who overlook her don't deserve her. Keep your mind on that princess and not irrelevant people because from here on out its all about them :) I hope things turn out good.

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I think it's just because it's her first. The first is always so exciting for everyone involved. You already had that, let her have the spotlight for a bit, I bet you'll even forget once your baby is born and everyone accurately displays their excitement.

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Focus on the fact that the kids will be so close in age!! Me and my cousin were 3 months apart and let me tell you we are as close as sisters! Get excited about that relationship and don't even worry about the other stuff :) congrats!!

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I know how you feel I announced my pregnancy then the same week my brothers girlfriend announced her pregnancy then two weeks after that my Hubby's 19 year old sister announced she was pregnant and actually due the same exact day as me but they're both having girls and I'm the only one having a boy 😏

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I don't know your family's dynamic but I think their excitement has a lot to do w it being her first child, everyone thinking she couldn't have kids (bc that's what she told them) and her being a newlywed. Once both babies are born I'm sure your daughter will get just as much attention as her kid. If you're feeling a little jealous thou I will say be prepared for when your baby is 2 months and hers comes along to "steal the glory at first".

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You are entitled to your own emotional experience.  I think you totally hit the nail on the head about the most curiosity and excitement being around first babies.  Also, by "everybody" I assume you mean family and or church group or the like?  Might be time to diversify who you spend time with, and make friends of your own who care about you as your own individual separate from your family.

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