Confused & frustrated.

Okay, soo me and my boyfriend are going on a year and 8 months. Its been a down hill spiral full of ups and downs and everything else. Well recently we've been fighting constantly about almost everything. I'm on Anti Depressants and Anti Anxiety meds because of the depressants.. He HATES it.. He says I'm pretty much a zombie all the time now, but i feel like its gotten better, doctor said its looking better as well. (Point -) he doesn't want me to take it at all anymore because its not "helping" that's the major thing we fight about.. He also wants me to pretty much change who i am.. I can cook, i choose not to because of his parents and the cats are EVERYWHERE.. So i refuse to unless needed.. He wants that to change, he wants me to me more alpha like and i cant its not my personality. But i ask him to do ONE thing and that's to quit smoking pot because i HATE the smell it give me a massive migraine and he's a complete asshole when smoking. He wont do that for me yet he wants me too.. Sometimes i feel like hes the reason my depression is getting bad and i feel trapped but i love him to much to leave and go back to my home state :/ any advice??