Love life

I'm in need of some serious advice. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and recently I met someone else and have fallen for him... I don't know what to do and they both want me. My last resort option is cut them both off and never go back. But I have a serious problem with hurting people... What is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone? My boyfriend is making me choose and I don't know what option is the "right" choice. I really need help please....😖😭